Fear of Travel stops us. Don't let it grow inside you.

How many times have you watched an episode on Travel channel and said,”Wow, it would be great to visit this place.” How many times have you watched a movie and seen some beautiful destination? Or how about some exotic place you read about it, but never visited? Have you ever wondered why that happen?
Eventually, you put your fist down, and decide to do something about it. You start browsing for some travel deals and destinations, exploring and researching several exciting places to visit. Then, after some time, your energy fades again, and you have several bad scenarios which might happen to make your trip a nightmare. You ditch the plans, and return to your previous boring and lifeless surrounding, feeling dissatisfaction, doubt, and disbelief.

This is not your fault.
Fear is the reason of your dissatisfaction. Fear is the reason of your doubt and disbelief. You get depressed times when you lament on your lack of satisfaction caused by not traveling anywhere. Today, I’m going to show you why you’re letting fear stop you from reaching your dream vacation, or exploration. I’ll also show you how to deal with specific situations that fears create in your mind to stop you. It’s not that hard.
Here are the 11 reasons fear stops you from travelling.

1. Getting out of the comfort zone

You lament over some destination, thinking about how lovely it would be to go there. You have errands around the house, a 9-5 job, and kids to take care of. You’re afraid what might happen when you’re away. It sure would be nice to go to Cambodia right now, and explore the wonders of the hundreds of temples, as well as other lovely attractions, but I’m busy. You think that everything might fall apart while you’re gone.

This is the most common example of people who do not want to leave their comfort zone, and to free themselves by visiting the place they dream about. To put this fear behind you, just tell yourself what would be the worst possible scenario that might happen when you’re away. Then think of what you would do to restore the order. Write all the worst scenarios and solutions on a piece of paper and read it several times. You’ll feel the relief, like a weight being lifted from your shoulders. Think of the positive aspects of travelling to your favorite destination. You will find more than 10 reasons to do it. Go and forget about the fear of leaving home. Everything will sort itself out — or you will.

2. Fear of the unknown(Xenophobia)

Fear of the unknown comes as a supplement of the aforementioned. Anxiety and doubt act as tension boosters. You can have many fearful questions in your mind, usually in rapid fire succession.

 

When you’re preparing for the trip, it’s best to have smart and thorough research about your desired location. There are over a million travel related sites out there which can help. You can make your itinerary, find about places of interest, what to avoid, and where to try best food. Good preparation will get you hyped and anxious about your trip, instead of being afraid.

3. The language barrier

When fear overwhelms your mind, rapid questions and problems start emerging. A language barrier usually comes among the first, boosting unpleasantness and tension. Not being understood in a foreign country, where a small percentage of people speak your language, can lead to unpleasant situations — even trouble.


The answer to this problem lies in preparation. When you’re going abroad, get prepared. This includes learning a few basic sentences which will help you in every situation. Things like, “Where is the toilet?”, “I need a taxi”, “Where is the bus station?”, “I want a single/return ticket” and so on, always come in handy. Of course, “please” and “thank you” also go a long way when you’re seeking help from locals. When you think about this, remember that a few basic sentences can save you and help you avoid 85% of complications. Just stick to the itinerary — or your guide.

4. Fear of having a bad experience

When you’re frightened and stressed out, your brain can make you think of many circumstances that might occur. Yes, it’s true it’s great in India, but you can get robbed. You would love to visit New York’s Times Square, but what if it’s too crowded, and maybe you get pushed or somebody attacks you?


This fear is based on stress and anxiety. When you feel this way, you can’t see the good and fine things that might happen to you while traveling; you are too focused only on the bad things that might happen. Don’t run around every day like that chicken who yelled, “The sky is falling!” You must calm down, and stop having these bad thoughts. You must tell yourself that you’re being irrational. Relax. Stop making up reasons that might turn you away from traveling and exploring new and stunning locations. Don’t be the small and frightened chicken.

5. Fear of flying

The fear of flying is irrational. It has actually evolved into a medically defined phobia among people. If you’re having problems with the fear of flying, it can be dealt with by preparation and logical thinking. First of all, in today’s world the chances of an airplane falling from the sky are very, very small. Technology is advancing with each passing day, and security measures are near perfection. When you think about it you’ll realize there aren’t many chances for something to go wrong. If this doesn’t help, you can take sleeping pills half an hour before getting in the plane. When the plane starts taking off, you won’t be anxious and hysterical. You’ll be sleeping like a baby.


Finally, if you can’t overcome the fear of flying, you can always travel on land. There are many methods of transportation that will get you to your dream destination slower, but safer.

6. The fear of traveling alone

This type of traveling can be exciting. People who have already done this can tell only great things about solo traveling, especially girls. Even though, some people are frightened to even think about it. However, when you’re alone, you can’t rely on anyone. There is no help, and you might need it.


This feeling is overrated and not logical. When you’re alone, it’s not true that you can’t rely on anyone. To solve this problem, you can try to persuade your best friend to come along with you if possible. If not, today’s technology can help you a lot. With cameras and an internet connection your best friend can keep you company via Skype or Snapchat.
Next, if you are in need of help, you can always ask somebody that passes by. Chances are more than likely that somebody will help you. You might even earn some friends along the way.

7. The fear of getting injured abroad

You might travel to some exotic destinations where you can ride an elephant, or dance all night. However, what if you fall and get hurt? What if that gets serious? Then you factor in the language barrier and get even more stressed. If you need immediate help, you won’t have the time or patience to translate.
Again, this fear is irrational because the chances you’ll hurt yourself seriously are usually very slim. However, people can be afraid of this and it might turn some away from having an amazing experience. Remember, there are doctors and medical staff in every country in the world. Furthermore, you can take the international medical insurance that covers all the medical costs in the country where you’re about to go. This will make you feel more secure.


Finally, don’t rush into possible dangerous situations, or be reckless. You can twist your ankle in your doorstep if you’re not careful. So imagine what can happen on a steep rocky road or slippery dance floor?

8. The fear of getting robbed

Robberies and scams often happen to tourists, but you can’t do anything about it. You can be the next victim, and end without your belongings, your wallet, credit cards, and more. The nightmare scenario only gets worse the longer you think about it.

There is a possibility to get scammed and robbed when you travel. This fear is valid concern. However, if you’re alert and careful, you can significantly lower the chances of getting robbed. Get informed about the destination you’re visiting. Learn about the scams or problems that you might encounter. A good solution to this problem might be to leave your valuables at home. If you need them, keep them in sight at all times, and don’t be reckless. You will be fine.

9. Not being able to afford it

This one is connected with inner disturbances and distress that may come from something in the past, or insecurities. When you tell to yourself, “I can’t afford that trip, that’s too expensive!” you condemn yourself to never move from that couch.


Travel can definitely be expensive, but preparing and researching can save you a lot of money by cutting costs, knowing what to choose, including services and goods, accommodation and transportation.
There’s a simple way to deal with this problem. If you want to travel, research thoroughly and find the best deal. Then, start saving money for it, no matter how long it takes. Put away a small amount every day. Eventually the sum will grow enough to support your dream vacation trip.

10. Running out of money

This fear comes along with the #9 fear. Many people have a fear of spending all of their money on a trip because of unexpected costs.


While you’re preparing for the trip and planning the budget, top the amount with 25% more just to be sure nothing can surprise you. Another variation of this solution is to leave some money with a friend at home who can help by sending it over via Western Union. Now you can travel with relief and not worry about money as much.

11. Getting lost

Some people love to “get lost” when they explore new, exciting destinations. On the other hand, some people get the chills when they even think about leaving their hotel room. This fear puts boundaries in our heads and we freeze in place, not being able to move. That’s how this fear can be dangerous. Too much modern movies of hijacking turned us into scared skeptics.


Maps, a GPS system, and a good mood is all that you need for a solution. Make sure your map is written in your own language first. Also ensure your GPS device is set for the country you’re visiting. If both of these methods fail, you can always ask some locals for help.
Sometimes getting lost enhances your holidays.

Fear of travel stops us, don’t let it grow inside you.

You’ve seen how many forms fear of travel can take. We gave you answers to every problem that might occur on your travels.
Now you notice that there is no need for your irrational fears. This world is enormous, and a million wonders wait for you to discover them. Don’t get paralyzed by fear. Travel and live your life to the fullest!

Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a theory in psychology proposed by Abraham Maslow in his 1943 paper "A Theory of Human Motivation" in Psychological Review.^[2] Maslow subsequently extended the idea to include his observations of humans' innate curiosity. His theories parallel many other theories of human developmental psychology, some of which focus on describing the stages of growth in humans. Maslow used the terms "physiological", "safety", "belongingness" and "love", "esteem", "self-actualization", and "self-transcendence" to describe the pattern that human motivations generally move through.
Maslow studied what he called exemplary people such as Albert Einstein, Jane Addams, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Frederick Douglass rather than mentally ill or neurotic people, writing that "the study of crippled, stunted, immature, and unhealthy specimens can yield only a cripple psychology and a cripple philosophy."^[3] Maslow studied the healthiest 1% of the college student population.^[4]

Maslow's hierarchy of needs is often portrayed in the shape of a pyramid with the largest, most fundamental levels of needs at the bottom and the need for self-actualization at the top.^[1][7] While the pyramid has become the de facto way to represent the hierarchy, Maslow himself never used a pyramid to describe these levels in any of his writings on the subject.
The most fundamental and basic four layers of the pyramid contain what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "d-needs": esteem, friendship and love, security, and physical needs. If these "deficiency needs" are not met – with the exception of the most fundamental (physiological) need – there may not be a physical indication, but the individual will feel anxious and tense. Maslow's theory suggests that the most basic level of needs must be met before the individual will strongly desire (or focus motivation upon) the secondary or higher level needs. Maslow also coined the term "metamotivation" to describe the motivation of people who go beyond the scope of the basic needs and strive for constant betterment.^[8]
The human mind and brain are complex and have parallel processes running at the same time, thus many different motivations from various levels of Maslow's hierarchy can occur at the same time. Maslow spoke clearly about these levels and their satisfaction in terms such as "relative," "general," and "primarily." Instead of stating that the individual focuses on a certain need at any given time, Maslow stated that a certain need "dominates" the human organism.^[9] Thus Maslow acknowledged the likelihood that the different levels of motivation could occur at any time in the human mind, but he focused on identifying the basic types of motivation and the order in which they should be met.

Physiological needs

Physiological needs are the physical requirements for human survival. If these requirements are not met, the human body cannot function properly and will ultimately fail. Physiological needs are thought to be the most important; they should be met first.
Air, water, and food are metabolic requirements for survival in all animals, including humans. Clothing and shelter provide necessary protection from the elements. While maintaining an adequate birth rate shapes the intensity of the human sexual instinct, sexual competition may also shape said instinct.^[2]

Safety needs

With their physical needs relatively satisfied, the individual's safety needs take precedence and dominate behavior. In the absence of physical safety – due to war, natural disaster, family violence, childhood abuse, etc. – people may (re-)experience post-traumatic stress disorder or transgenerational trauma. In the absence of economic safety – due to economic crisis and lack of work opportunities – these safety needs manifest themselves in ways such as a preference for job security, grievance procedures for protecting the individual from unilateral authority, savings accounts, insurance policies, reasonable disability accommodations, etc. This level is more likely to be found in children because they generally have a greater need to feel safe.
Safety and Security needs include:

• Personal security
• Financial security
• Health and well-being
• Safety net against accidents/illness and their adverse impacts

Love and belonging

After physiological and safety needs are fulfilled, the third level of human needs is interpersonal and involves feelings of belongingness. This need is especially strong in childhood and can override the need for safety as witnessed in children who cling to abusive parents. Deficiencies within this level of Maslow's hierarchy – due to hospitalism, neglect, shunning, ostracism, etc. – can impact the individual's ability to form and maintain emotionally significant relationships in general, such as:

• Friendship
• Intimacy
• Family

According to Maslow, humans need to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance among their social groups, regardless whether these groups are large or small. For example, some large social groups may include clubs, co-workers, religious groups, professional organizations, sports teams, and gangs. Some examples of small social connections include family members, intimate partners, mentors, colleagues, and confidants. Humans need to love and be loved – both sexually and non-sexually – by others.^[2] Many people become susceptible to loneliness, social anxiety, and clinical depression in the absence of this love or belonging element. This need for belonging may overcome the physiological and security needs, depending on the strength of the peer pressure.

Esteem

All humans have a need to feel respected; this includes the need to have self-esteem and self-respect. Esteem presents the typical human desire to be accepted and valued by others. People often engage in a profession or hobby to gain recognition. These activities give the person a sense of contribution or value. Low self-esteem or an inferiority complex may result from imbalances during this level in the hierarchy. People with low self-esteem often need respect from others; they may feel the need to seek fame or glory. However, fame or glory will not help the person to build their self-esteem until they accept who they are internally. Psychological imbalances such as depression can hinder the person from obtaining a higher level of self-esteem or self-respect.
Most people have a need for stable self-respect and self-esteem. Maslow noted two versions of esteem needs: a "lower" version and a "higher" version. The "lower" version of esteem is the need for respect from others. This may include a need for status, recognition, fame, prestige, and attention. The "higher" version manifests itself as the need for self-respect. For example, the person may have a need for strength, competence, mastery, self-confidence, independence, and freedom. This "higher" version takes precedence over the "lower" version because it relies on an inner competence established through experience. Deprivation of these needs may lead to an inferiority complex, weakness, and helplessness.
Maslow states that while he originally thought the needs of humans had strict guidelines, the "hierarchies are interrelated rather than sharply separated".^[5] This means that esteem and the subsequent levels are not strictly separated; instead, the levels are closely related.

Self-actualization

Main article: Self-actualization

"What a man can be, he must be."^[10] This quotation forms the basis of the perceived need for self-actualization. This level of need refers to what a person's full potential is and the realization of that potential. Maslow describes this level as the desire to accomplish everything that one can, to become the most that one can be.^[11] Individuals may perceive or focus on this need very specifically. For example, one individual may have the strong desire to become an ideal parent. In another, the desire may be expressed athletically. For others, it may be expressed in paintings, pictures, or inventions.^[12] As previously mentioned, Maslow believed that to understand this level of need, the person must not only achieve the previous needs, but master them.

Self-transcendence

In his later years, Maslow explored a further dimension of needs, while criticizing his own vision on self-actualization.^[13] The self only finds its actualization in giving itself to some higher goal outside oneself, in altruism and spirituality.^[14]

Seve mistakes men make

Mistake 1: Sex Starts in the Bedroom

Men may turn on like a light, but for women, arousal doesn’t happen so fast, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD.

Pave the way during the day by hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Have some fun together, and show you appreciate her.

Feeling safe and secure in the relationship is key for a woman to really let loose during sex, Kerner says. A long hug can go further than you’d think. “Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates [a] sense of connection and trust.”

Mistake 2: Assume You Know What She Wants

“Just as many women are faking orgasm today as 20 or 30 years ago,” Kerner says. So, if she’s not enjoying herself, you might not know it.

Don't be afraid to ask questions like “How does this feel?” or “Do you want something different?”

In other words, ask for directions.

Mistake 3: Stick to Your Plan

Don't think that "if it worked the first three times, it will work the next three times," says sex therapist Sari Cooper, LCSW.

What turns her on may depend on her mood, and where she is in her monthly cycle. “Perhaps her nipples are more sensitive or her genitals are less tingly,” Cooper adds.

Pay attention to your partner, says psychologist Lonnie Barbach, PhD. “Try different things and she how she responds.”

When you find something that works, linger on it. Women often complain that men move on to the next thing just as they really start to enjoy an activity.

Mistake 4: Keep It Strictly Physical

Expand your idea of foreplay. Some men "focus on physical stimulation and often ignore mental stimulation,” Kerner says.

While men get stirred up by what they see, “women fantasize a lot during sex as part of [the] process of arousal.” Join in -- share a fantasy or a sexy memory.

Mistake 5: Expect Intercourse to Give Her an Orgasm

For 80% of women, intercourse alone won’t do the trick. Why not? Most sex positions don’t directly stimulate the clitoris.

There are other ways to pleasure her. “Women orgasm much more consistently from oral sex than from intercourse,” Kerner says. Also, try sex with the woman on top, or a vibrator made for couples to use during sex. “Men should feel comfortable, not threatened, with sex toys,” he says.

To help her hit the high note when you do have sex, take time to get her going before you make your entrance. “The closer women are when they start intercourse, the more likely they are to have an orgasm,” Barbach says.

Mistake 6: Skip the Seduction

Women like to be seduced. "Seduction is as important as, or sometimes more important than, technique,” Cooper says.

It helps to know what kind of turn-on your partner likes, whether it’s oral, visual, or mental, she says. “Does your partner like it when you talk dirty over the phone or text? Trace your finger slowly up her chest? Flirt with her at a bar?”

Also, if you like what you see, say so. "Let a woman know how desirable she is,” Barbach says.

Mistake 7: Focus on Ringing the Bell

Most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, but it's more complex than you may think.

Some men "don’t understand the anatomy of the clitoris,” Cooper says. It’s more than the small "button" you can see. Its nerve endings spread throughout the vulva and inside the vagina. All are potential pleasure points worth exploring.

“You can go back and forth,” Cooper says. Paying too much attention to the glans, at the top of the vulva, can take away from pleasure for some women. It's so sensitive, that too much stimulation can hurt.

AAAH Kissing, my favorite.

Kissing is a way to show affection that can be a lot of fun, not to mention having been scientifically proven to give couples a greater emotional connection than physical intimacy. There has even been proof that people remember their first kiss far better and more vividly than their first sexual experience. People don’t tend to over-think or dissect things that are such a joyful part of their lives, but here are a few things that you might not know about the best and most satisfying way to express affection.

The Science of Kissing

There is a scientific word for everything under the sun, and that includes kissing. The term for the study of kissing is “philematology”; the scientific term for French kissing is “cataglottism.”

Speaking of Words

The word “kiss” comes from the Old English “cyssan,” which in turn comes from the proto-Germanic “kussijinan” or “kuss.” These words are believed to have come from the sound that kissing makes.

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Work It Out

Locking lips is a physical affair, but exactly how physical? The average person burns about 2 calories for every minute of kissing; a passionate make out can burn up to 6 calories a minute.

Literary Evidence

The kiss is a popular subject for poetry and literature across all languages and cultures. The very first mention of the kiss in written word was in the Four Vedic Sanskrit texts, which dates back to 1500 B.C.

Potty Mouth

It’s widely known that the human mouth is an extremely dirty place. With one kiss, persons exchange anywhere from 10 million to 1 billion bacteria. As gross as that sounds, exchanging a kiss with a sick person is less likely to give you a cold than shaking their hand.

Time Of Your Life

Quantifying all of the daily activities really helps to put things into perspective. The average person does enough kissing to fill up two weeks of his or her life.

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A Violent Affair

Kissing is supposed to be nice, but it can have horrible unexpected consequences. In China, a man kissed his girlfriend so hard that he reduced the pressure in her mouth, which resulted in rupturing her eardrum.

Make Out Physiology

There are a great many facial muscles involved in kissing – a full-on French kiss involves up to 34 muscles. The most important of all though is the orbicularis oris, the muscle that allows the lips to pucker.

Guinness World Record

The current world record holders for the longest kiss belong to Ekkachai and Laksana Tiranarat of Thailand. On February 14th, 2013 they broke the current smooching milestone with a 58 hour, 35 minute, 58 second long kiss.

A Sensitive Subject

The human lips are extremely sensitive, 100 more sensitive than the tips of the fingers. Not even your intimate bits are that sensitive.

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When In Rome

The Romans like the Greeks were famous for intellectualizing everything, even the kiss. They divided them into three categories: a kiss on the cheek or “Osculum”, a kiss on the lips or “Basium”, and the deep kiss or “Savolium”.

French Twist

French kissing may be an incredibly fun and delightful experience, but the classic name wasn’t meant to reflect this. The term came about in 1923 as a dig towards the French culture and how so many thought it was so oversexed.

Origin of the Act

So many scholars are unsure as to whether kissing is learned or instinctual. Because there are plenty of cultures around the world that don’t practice kissing, many lean towards the latter.

Cinematic History

You may see a lot of kissing in the movies nowadays, but that wasn’t always the case. Under the censorship of the Hays Code, which was enforced from 1930 to 1968, on-screen kissing was strictly regulated and only allowed to last a few seconds. When kissing, if one person was lying down then the other person had to be standing or sitting upright; if spouses were kissing on the bed (film spouses slept in separate twin beds), one or both of the couple had to have a foot on the floor.

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Alternative Methods

Although a lot of people say giving “Eskimo” kisses is silly, most wouldn’t admit otherwise. An average of 95% of men and women admit to enjoying rubbing noses every once in a while.

Written Word

You may know that X’s and O’s are the written shorthand for kisses and hugs respectively. What you may not know is that the X is not just a randomly assigned letter – its meant to represent the shape the lips make when they pucker.

Literary Symbolism

Kissing is used as a very powerful metaphor seen throughout art and literature. The two most commonly seen are the kiss of life, also called “The Breath of God”, and the kiss of death, also referred to as “The Judas Kiss”.

You May Kiss The Bride

It would be easy to assume that the husband kisses his new bride at the end of a wedding ceremony as a symbol of love, but that would be assuming incorrectly. In fact, the act can be traced back to ancient Rome where kisses were used to complete and sign personal contracts.

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Getting High

When you kiss someone for the first time, the neurotransmitter dopamine is released, a feel-good hormone that makes you crave more. Unfortunately, dopamine can also make you lose your appetite and make it very difficult for you to fall asleep.

Righty-Tighty

When going in for a kiss, about two-thirds of people tilt their heads to the right. German researcher Onur Güntürkün discovered this not by surveying people but by spying on 224 unknowing American, German, and Turkish couples.

  

More to know about dreams

Dreams. Mysterious, bewildering, eye-opening and sometimes a nightmarish living hell: dreams are all that and much more. Here are 20 amazing facts about dreams that you might have never heard about.

Fact #1: You can’t read while dreaming, or tell the time

If you are unsure whether you are dreaming or not, try reading something. The vast majority of people are incapable of reading in their dreams. The same goes for clocks: each time you look at a clock it will tell a different time and the hands on the clock won’t appear to be moving as reported by lucid dreamers.

Fact #2: Lucid dreaming

There is a whole subculture of people practicing what is called lucid or conscious dreaming. Using various techniques, these people have supposedly learned to assume control of their dreams and do amazing things like flying, passing through walls, and traveling to different dimensions or even back in time.

Fact #3: Inventions inspired by dreams

Dreams are responsible for many of the greatest inventions of mankind. A few examples include:

• The idea for Google -Larry Page
• Alternating current generator -Tesla
• DNA’s double helix spiral form -James Watson
• The sewing machine -Elias Howe
• Periodic table -Dimitri Mendeleyev

…and many, many more.

Fact #4: Premonition dreams

There are some astounding cases where people actually dreamt about things which happened to them later, in the exact same ways they dreamed about. You could say they got a glimpse of the future, or it might have just been coincidence. The fact remains that this is some seriously interesting and bizarre phenomena. Some of the most famous premonition dreams include:

• Abraham Lincoln dreamt of His Assassination
• Many of the victims of 9/11 had dreams warning them about the catastrophe
• Mark Twain’s dream of his brother’s demise
• 19 verified precognitive dreams about the Titanic catastrophe

Fact #5: Sleep paralysis

Hell is real and it is called sleep paralysis. It’s the stuff of true nightmares. I’ve been a sleep paralysis sufferer as a kid and I can attest to how truly horrible it is. Two characteristics of sleep paralysis are the inability to move (hence paralysis) and a sense of an extremely evil presence in the room with you. It doesn’t feel like a dream, but 100% real. Studies show that during an attack, sleep paralysis sufferers show an overwhelming amygdala activity. The amygdala is responsible for the “fight or flight” instinct and the emotions of fear, terror and anxiety. Enough said!

Fact #6: REM sleep disorder

In the state of REM (rapid-eye-movement) stage of your sleep your body is normally paralyzed. In rare cases, however, people act out their dreams. These have resulted in broken arms, legs, broken furniture, and in at least one reported case, a house burnt down.

Fact #7: Sexual dreams

The very scientifically-named “nocturnal penile tumescence” is a very well documented phenomena. In laymen’s term it simply means that you get a stiffy while you sleep. Actually, studies indicate that men get up to 20 erections per dream.

Fact #8: Unbelievable Sleepwalkers

Sleepwalking is a very rare and potentially dangerous sleep disorder. It is an extreme form of REM sleep disorder, and these people don’t just act out their dreams, but go on real adventures at night.
Lee Hadwin is a nurse by profession, but in his dreams he is an artist. Literally. He “sleepdraws” gorgeous portraits, of which he has no recollection afterwards. Strange sleepwalking “adventures” include:

• A woman having sex with strangers while sleepwalking
• A man who drove 22 miles and killed his cousin while sleepwalking (how is this even possible?)
• A sleepwalker who walked out of the window from the third floor, and barely survived

Fact #9: Dream drug

There are actually people who like dreaming and dreams so much that they never want to wake up. They want to continue on dreaming even during the day, so they take an illegal and extremely potent hallucinogenic drug called Dimethyltryptamine. It is actually only an isolated and synthetic form of the chemical our brains produce naturally during dreaming.

Fact #10 Dream-catcher

The dream-catcher is one of the most well-known Native American symbols. It is a loose web or webs woven around a hoop and decorated with sacred objects meant to protect against nightmares.

Fact #11: Increased brain activity

You would associate sleeping with peace and quiet, but actually our brains are more active during sleep than during the day.

Fact #12: Creativity and dreams

As we mentioned before, dreams are responsible for inventions, great artworks and are generally just incredibly interesting. They are also “recharging” our creativity. In rare cases of REM disorder, people actually don’t dream at all. These people suffer from significantly decreased creativity and perform badly at tasks requiring creative problem solving.

Fact #13: Pets dream too

Our animal companions dream as well. Watch a dog or a cat sleep and you can see that they are moving their paws and making noises like they were chasing something. Go get ’em Buddy!

Fact #14: You always dream—you just don’t remember it

Many people claim that they don’t dream at all, but that’s not true: we all dream, but up to 60% of people don’t remember their dreams at all.

Fact #15: Blind people dream too

Blind people who were not born blind see images in their dreams but people who were born blind don’t see anything at all. They still dream, and their dreams are just as intense and interesting, but they involve the other senses beside sight.

Fact #16: In our dreams we only see faces that we already know

It is proven that in dreams we can only see faces that we have seen in real life before. So beware: that scary-looking old lady next to you on the bus might as well be in your next nightmare.

Fact #17: Dreams tend to be negative

Surprisingly, dreams are more often negative than positive. The three most widely reported emotions felt during dreaming are anger, sadness and fear.

Fact #18: Multiple dreams per night

You can have up to seven different dreams per night depending on how many REM cycles you have. We only dream during the REM period of sleep, and the average person dreams one to two hours every night.

Fact #19: Gender differences

Interestingly, 70% of all the characters in a man’s dream are other men, but women’s dream contain an equal amount of women and men. Also men’s dreams contain a lot more aggression. Both women and men dream about sexual themes equally often.

Fact #20: Not everyone dreams in color

As much as 12% of people only dream in black and white.

Sorry Kiprono, Malia Is not going to show up afterall.

Even after the fair proposals by 2 Kenyan men, Malia Obama might not be accompanying her father to Kenya after all.

The 17 year old is said to be busy as she is interning on the set of a television hit series, Girls that is currently being filmed at New York for this summer. It is not fair to the Kenyan lawyer, Felix Kiprono, who had hoped to see her and present his 50 cows dowry offer to Obama himself. She could have at least considered the undying love from Felix.

It is not confirmed whether the Michelle and Sasha will accompany Obama during his trip.Obama is going to be accompanied by the American government officials and business moguls to the Global Entrepreneurship Summit which will be happening at the UN grounds in Gigiri.

Malia Obama has expressed her interest in media and production as last year she worked as a production assistant on the set of Halle Berry’s television series, Extant.

She is entering her senior year in high school and has been making the rounds to prospective colleges. She has been spotted visiting a number of New York schools.New York University, Barnard College and her father’s alma mater, Columbia University, have all been hinted as colleges she is likely to join once she graduates.

14 Embarrassing Sex Questions – Answered!

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32 TOTALLY Arousing Facts About . . .

1. During 30 minutes of active sex, the average person burns approximately 200 calories.^e
2. On average, adult men think about sex every seven seconds.^e
3. Having sex at least once per week can lower a man’s risk of heart disease by 30%, stroke by 50%, and diabetes by 40%. It has also been shown that men with an active sex life are more likely to live past 80 years.^f
4. The average size of an erect penis measures between 5 and 6 inches, while the average size of a flaccid penis is about 3.5 inches.^e
5. The sperm count of the average American male in 2008 was down nearly 30% from the sperm count of an average American male 30 years ago.^h

Viagra was released in 1998 with over $411 million in profits within its first three months

6. Viagra, the well-known blue pill designed to help with erectile dysfunction, made $411 million in profits within the first three months of its release in 1998 before going on to make $1.8 billion in 2003.^g
7. Use of the condom was first noted in published literature in the early 1500s. The device was originally made of linen, and historians believe the legendary lover Casanova used linen condoms.^a
8. Historical records show that even in 1850 B.C., women attempted to practice birth control. The most common method was a mixture of crocodile dung and honey placed in the vagina in the hopes of preventing pregnancy.^a
9. Although nearly any body part or item of clothing may be an object of sexual fetishism, the shoe and the foot are the two most common fetishes in Western society.^e
10. Just a decade ago, only 25% of women reported experiencing orgasm as a result of intercourse. In recent years, this number has risen to about 45%. In contrast, over 80% of women report experiencing orgasm though oral sex.^e
11. The vibrator, a common sex toy for women, was originally designed in the nineteenth century as a medication to combat the anxiety-related symptoms of “hysteria” (now known as menstruation).^a
12. Homosexuality was listed as a mental illness with the American Psychiatric Association (APA) until 1973. It has since been removed and is now considered an orientation by the APA instead of an illness.^h
13. Throughout the United States, approximately 4% of the population self-identifies as gay, lesbian, or bisexual.^h
14. Approximately 1% of people worldwide identify as asexual (having no strong sexual attraction to either sex).^b

One in five Americans has been sexually involved with a coworker

15. Statistics suggest that approximately one in every five Americans has indulged in sex with a colleague at work.^e
16. Approximately 70% of people in the U.S. admit to fantasizing about group sex at some point in their life, and more than 50% of those people actually follow through.^e
17. Nearly one in four Americans (65 millions people) are currently living with an incurable sexually transmitted disease (STD).ⁱ
18. During 2007, more than 2.5 million people worldwide became infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. With these new cases, there are now 33 million people living with AIDS throughout the world.ⁱ
19. Since AIDS was first diagnosed in 1981, more than 25 million people have died as a result of the virus. Two million people died from AIDS in the year 2007 alone.ⁱ
20. The average male produces several million new sperm daily. Conversely, a female is born with a finite amount of eggs and will produce no more than that throughout her lifetime.^f
21. Statistics show that approximately 90% of men and 65% of women masturbate from time to time.^e
22. Worldwide, 27.5% of women report that they felt pressured into having sex for the first time compared to 15% of men reporting the same feelings.^c
23. According to a 2007 worldwide sex survey, the average age when people first have sex is 19.25. The survey also found that people in Asian countries tended to lose their virginity at a much later age (an average of 22) than those in Western cultures (an average of 18).^c

The car is second only to the bedroom as a favorite place to have sex

24. Outside of the bedroom, the most common place for adults in the U.S. to have sex is the car.^c
25. The average couple spends about 20 minutes engaged in sexual foreplay prior to intercourse.^e
26. Worldwide, sexually active adults report having sex an average of 103 times per year. This number is down from an average of 127 times per year in 2003.^d
27. One report states that 48% of women have faked an orgasm at least once in their life. Interestingly, an identical 48% of men also report faking an orgasm at least once.^d
28. Throughout the world, approximately 25% of people report having had only one sexual partner. Conversely, 21% of people report having more than 10 sexual partners in their lifetime.^d
29. One survey reports that 53% of sexually active Americans claim to have sex at least once weekly. However, only 48% of Americans report being satisfied with their sex life.^c
30. Many of the ingredients in chocolate are proven to cause arousal similar in effect to sexual foreplay. In fact, some experts believe chocolate may be even more effective than foreplay for sexual arousal.^a
31. Both men and women can be turned on by the aromas of wine. The scents of many wines are believed to replicate human pheromones, the chemical substances that cause behavioral responses in humans.^a
32. Endorphins released during sexual activity create a euphoria similar to that produced by opioid drug use. These same endorphins also act as extremely effective pain killers.^f

Ai Se Eu Te Pego

Many like the song, but have you ever known the meaning?

Portuguese

Ai Se Eu Te Pego

 

Nossa, nossa
Assim você me mata
Ai, se eu te pego,
Ai, ai, se eu te pego
Delícia, delícia
Assim você me mata
Ai, se eu te pego
Ai, ai, se eu te pego
Sábado na balada
A galera começou a dançar
E passou a menina mais linda
Tomei coragem e comecei a falar
Nossa, nossa
Assim você me mata
Ai, se eu te pego
Ai, ai se eu te pego
Delícia, delicia
Assim você me mata
Ai, se eu te pego
Ai, ai, se eu te pego

English

Ah when I get my hands on you...

Wow, wow
You're gonna kill me that way
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Delicious, delicious
You're gonna kill me that way
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Saturday party night
Everyone began to dance
The hottest girl of the place passed me by
So I got the guts up and began to say to her
Wow, wow
You're gonna kill me that way
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Delicious, delicious
You're gonna kill me that way
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)

Amanda's Interview After Her 88-Pound Weight Loss With The Tolerance Suppressing Method.

A woman has documented her incredible 88lb weight loss with a series of photos showing just how dramatically her body - and self-confidence - has changed.

36-year-old Amanda, who did not reveal her last name, used advanced tolerance prevention system to shrink her 222lb frame.
By sticking to this advanced formula and doing 'virtually zero intentional exercise', Amanda managed to shed the weight while gaining self-confidence.

'In the early stages of taking pictures, I only took one of myself
- I hated the way I looked'

Indeed, the Reddit user responded to some viewers who commented on the fact that her smile gets broader as her waist gets smaller in the photo series.

'In the early stages of taking progress pictures, I literally only took one photo of myself. I hated the way I looked,' she wrote. 'I had so little self-confidence that the thought honestly never crossed my mind.'

Slimfy's three‐stage weight loss system has everyone changing the way they think of weight loss. As many weight loss systems claim to offer fat burning ingredients and amazing results, the true secret rests within the dosage and mixture of ingredients your body absorbs over a period of time. Slimfy's progressive three‐stage system was created to offer all of the best fat burning ingredients while managing to sustain the peak of their potency.
Slimfy's ground breaking Tolerance Prevention System was created by an experienced group of nutritionists, endocrinologists, and experts in the health and beauty industry. Their intensive research discovered how the human body must increase and differentiate the ingredients in weight loss formulas for the product to continue working. Slimfy's progressive three‐stage system uses a different compound of NON-GMO, ORGANIC ingredients in each stage to increase the results. Manufacturer claims: “Slimfy has already helped millions of people around the world to experience a happier and more fulfilling life through successful weight‐loss.”
Although we were pretty skeptical, we wanted to find out for ourselves if this product could actually do everything that it claimed. …Most of the success stories talk about combining allThree Stages of Slimfy to achieve maximum weight loss result. The idea behind combining the three formulas was discovered when studies had shown that people who regularly take supplements or medication develop a phenomenon called tolerance (if substance is used over 30 days)

Eva Mendes Shares Her Beauty And Fitness Tricks

It’s always intriguing to see a female celebrity getting older but more beautiful with each appearance. Hollywood celebs are people who simply know how to take care of themselves, but they seldom share their secrets with the world.
However, one of the prettiest women in Hollywood recently decided to come out with her beauty tricks. During a Facebook Q&A, actress Eva Mendes responded to her fans with advices on how to look beautiful and feel that way.
When asked how to stay healthy while having a busy schedule, Mendes responded: “Drinking warm water and lemon every morning before my coffee and staying hydrated all day long really helps me stay healthy and helps my skin look its best.”
The next topic was makeup, for which the actress has a few methods: “Believe it or not, after I’ve applied my makeup, if I really want it to stay all day, I run the hot shower for a minute and I let the steam settle my makeup. I know it sounds weird but it works for me!”
Finally, Eva Mendes shared her story about working out: “I do cardio and light weights at least three times a week. I think eating anything you want – as long as it’s in moderation is good.”
Some of her tricks might be unorthodox, but they clearly work for Eva Mendes. Nonetheless, it strange to think this Hollywood beauty owes her great figure and youthful looks to warm water and hot showers.

18 Things Every Woman Should Have Been Told About Sex, But Probably Wasn't

• Talking about sex during your formative years can be incredibly awkward -- even squirm-inducing. But whether you experience formal sex ed, awkward "birds and the bees" talks, candid conversations with friends or all or none of the above, it's all theoretical until you're actually doing it -- which can make for some surprises along the way.


On a Nov. 7 Reddit thread, commenters answered the question "what is something about sex that you wish someone had told you?" The thoughtful responses touched on everything from the way pornography has influenced our sex lives ( "changing positions every 30 seconds not actually required despite what porn clips teaches many") and calling out the unrealistic portrayal of sex in Hollywood ("Sex on a beach is not half as good as the movies make it out to be"), to safe-sex information ("Antibiotics impact the effectiveness of birth control pills") and general wisdom ("Sooner or later, one of you will do something utterly embarrassing. It will be absolutely mortifying. A good partner will not care.")
After asking about this from several acquaintances and people around and a little research, i have come up with the conclusion below. (all were ladies)
Here are 18 things they shared with me:
1. There is no dignified way of "cleaning up" -- and you WILL need to clean up afterwards.
2. A male partner won't always have a higher sex drive than you.
3. You can have as much sex as you want, with as many people as you like.
4. Sex is truly awesome when you really love the person you're having it with.
5. Women are allowed to enjoy sex as much as men.
6. Sex doesn't look like it does in the movies -- or in porn.
7. You are not more valuable as a person if someone wants to have sex with you, and you are not less valuable as a person if you choose not to.
8. Learn what turns you on and don't be afraid to ask for it, because your partner isn't a mind-reader.
9. It's fine to say "no" -- it doesn't make you less sexual.
10. The best sex is about mutual giving.
11. Plenty of women can't orgasm from intercourse alone. An estimated 50 to 75 percent of women require clitoral stimulation.
12. It's easy to get caught up in the moment, so know how you plan to protect yourself from pregnancy and STDs beforehand.
13. Great sex does not equal great love.
14. Anxieties and fears about sex are totally normal -- and it's (more than) fine to talk about them.
15. Just like with anything else, to get good you need practice. Sex is not something you're born knowing how to do well.
16. It can be really, really awkward.
17. Your "sexual peak" won't necessarily be in your twenties.
18. Experiment! (And have fun doing so.)

Lets talk abit about Masturbation

1. Masturbation is not evil, dirty or harmful - it will not make you go blind, drive you insane, turn you in to a pervert, stunt your growth, give you an STD, make you sterile or get you pregnant.
2. Both guys and girls masturbate, it is a normal and healthy part of sexual development.
3. Masturbation is a very personal thing and should not be done in public places or around people who are not willing partners (think safer sex activity).
4. You are normal if you masturbate, normal if you wonder about it but don't do it, and normal if you never give it a second thought and don't do it - it is one of the few things in life that is "normal if you do and normal if you don't".
5. Masturbation may make sexual intercourse more enjoyable because you will already know what it takes to "please you".
6. Masturbation alleviates stress and releases endorphins (the pleasure hormones) in to your system making you more relaxed.
7. Masturbation as exploration of the body is common in children between the ages of 3 and 6, in teens masturbation becomes more sophisticated and sexually motivated.
8. Surveys have shown that 80% of males and 59% of females have masturbated by age 18.
9. Many experts believe that masturbation is more prevalent in the teen years due to a strong fluctuation of hormones; masturbation alleviates the strain of this build up and is a necessary part of development.
10. The only real problems that come with masturbation are psychological and are the result of unhealthy or weary attitudes toward doing it (if you do it but are ashamed) or abnormal practices (for example, public masturbation).

So happy belated Masturbation Month, May is the month many lay down to celebrate the fine art of wanking, jerking off, rubbing one out, twirling the pearl, onanism, self-loving, going solo, spanking the monkey, fapping, self-servicing — pick your favorite. In honor of this highly-esteemed holiday, here are a few facts about beating off that you might have never heard of. Orgasms are an “inalienable constitutional right,” according to sexologist Carol Queen, so get your lube out.

1. National Masturbation Month was first celebrated in 1995 in honor of Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders, who was fired by President Bill Clinton for her statements supporting masturbation for sexual health.Can you masturbate too much? According to legend, wanking too frequently can cause blindness, insanity,  hairy palms, and stunted growth. The American Psychiatric Association says that unless masturbation is getting in the way of your everyday life (work, friendships, falafel), there is no such thing as too much self love. 
2. Can you masturbate too much? According to legend, wanking too frequently can cause blindness, insanity,  hairy palms, and stunted growth. The American Psychiatric Association says that unless masturbation is getting in the way of your everyday life (work, friendships, falafel), there is no such thing as too much self love.
3. Hold the Midol. Masturbating is one of the most effective natural ways to relieve menstrual cramps.
4.  One of the first depictions of a female masturbating was found in a clay figurine in a temple in Malta. The figurine was from the 4th millennium BC. Masturbating is literally an ancient practice.
5. Even more health benefits: Studies show that masturbation lowers the risk of type-2 diabetes, lowers the risk of prostate cancer, reduces depressions, and prevents cervical infections in women. It also puts you right to sleep.
6.  In 17th century Connecticut, masturbators were eligible for the death penalty. Yet another reason why I don’t live in Connecticut.
7.  Human aren’t the only ones to itch the ditch. Deer, monkeys, walruses, and squirrels have been documented pleasuring themselves. Scientists have even observed female apes using sticks for added pleasure.
8.  In the nineteenth century, vibrators were only used by physicians, and served the sole medical purpose of curing hysteria — a diagnosis thrust upon “difficult women.” Thanks, Victorians.
9.  The Kama Sutra, the ancient Indian Hindu sex manual from 400 BC included instructions for masturbating: “Churn your instrument with a lion’s pounce: sit with legs stretched out at right angles to one another, propping yourself up with two hands planted on the ground between in them, and it between your arms.”
10.  It’s hard to nail down when the first porn ever landed on the internet, but in 1994, Gary Kremen blessed all horny web surfers when he registered the domain Sex.com, considered to be the first dirty site ever.
11.  There are absolutely no health risks to masturbation (besides a little chafing). Getting on the roads everyday is more dangerous.

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