Friday, 19 June 2015

Lets talk abit about Masturbation


  1. Masturbation is not evil, dirty or harmful - it will not make you go blind, drive you insane, turn you in to a pervert, stunt your growth, give you an STD, make you sterile or get you pregnant.
  2. Both guys and girls masturbate, it is a normal and healthy part of sexual development.
  3. Masturbation is a very personal thing and should not be done in public places or around people who are not willing partners (think safer sex activity).
  4. You are normal if you masturbate, normal if you wonder about it but don't do it, and normal if you never give it a second thought and don't do it - it is one of the few things in life that is "normal if you do and normal if you don't".
  5. Masturbation may make sexual intercourse more enjoyable because you will already know what it takes to "please you".
  6. Masturbation alleviates stress and releases endorphins (the pleasure hormones) in to your system making you more relaxed.
  7. Masturbation as exploration of the body is common in children between the ages of 3 and 6, in teens masturbation becomes more sophisticated and sexually motivated.
  8. Surveys have shown that 80% of males and 59% of females have masturbated by age 18.
  9. Many experts believe that masturbation is more prevalent in the teen years due to a strong fluctuation of hormones; masturbation alleviates the strain of this build up and is a necessary part of development.
  10. The only real problems that come with masturbation are psychological and are the result of unhealthy or weary attitudes toward doing it (if you do it but are ashamed) or abnormal practices (for example, public masturbation).
So happy belated Masturbation Month, May is the month many lay down to celebrate the fine art of wanking, jerking off, rubbing one out, twirling the pearl, onanism, self-loving, going solo, spanking the monkey, fapping, self-servicing — pick your favorite. In honor of this highly-esteemed holiday, here are a few facts about beating off that you might have never heard of. Orgasms are an “inalienable constitutional right,” according to sexologist Carol Queen, so get your lube out.
  1. National Masturbation Month was first celebrated in 1995 in honor of Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders, who was fired by President Bill Clinton for her statements supporting masturbation for sexual health.Can you masturbate too much? According to legend, wanking too frequently can cause blindness, insanity,  hairy palms, and stunted growth. The American Psychiatric Association says that unless masturbation is getting in the way of your everyday life (work, friendships, falafel), there is no such thing as too much self love. 
  2. Can you masturbate too much? According to legend, wanking too frequently can cause blindness, insanity,  hairy palms, and stunted growth. The American Psychiatric Association says that unless masturbation is getting in the way of your everyday life (work, friendships, falafel), there is no such thing as too much self love.
  3. Hold the Midol. Masturbating is one of the most effective natural ways to relieve menstrual cramps.
  4.  One of the first depictions of a female masturbating was found in a clay figurine in a temple in Malta. The figurine was from the 4th millennium BC. Masturbating is literally an ancient practice.
  5. Even more health benefits: Studies show that masturbation lowers the risk of type-2 diabetes, lowers the risk of prostate cancer, reduces depressions, and prevents cervical infections in women. It also puts you right to sleep.
  6.  In 17th century Connecticut, masturbators were eligible for the death penalty. Yet another reason why I don’t live in Connecticut.
  7.  Human aren’t the only ones to itch the ditch. Deer, monkeys, walruses, and squirrels have been documented pleasuring themselves. Scientists have even observed female apes using sticks for added pleasure.
  8.  In the nineteenth century, vibrators were only used by physicians, and served the sole medical purpose of curing hysteria — a diagnosis thrust upon “difficult women.” Thanks, Victorians.
  9.  The Kama Sutra, the ancient Indian Hindu sex manual from 400 BC included instructions for masturbating: “Churn your instrument with a lion’s pounce: sit with legs stretched out at right angles to one another, propping yourself up with two hands planted on the ground between in them, and it between your arms.”
  10.  It’s hard to nail down when the first porn ever landed on the internet, but in 1994, Gary Kremen blessed all horny web surfers when he registered the domain Sex.com, considered to be the first dirty site ever.
  11.  There are absolutely no health risks to masturbation (besides a little chafing). Getting on the roads everyday is more dangerous.

Wednesday, 17 June 2015

Latest information

Four high-ranking execs leaving Microsoft — including former Nokia CEO — in major leadership shakeupBy Todd Bishop Microsoft this morning announced a series of major changes to its senior leadership team under CEO Satya Nadella, including the departure of four high-ranking executives: former Nokia CEO Stephen Elop, Microsoft Business Solutions leader Kirill Tatarinov, advanced strategy chief Eric Rudder, and chief insights officer Mark Penn, the former Clinton political adviser. Review: Does the Pebble Time smartwatch live up to its Kickstarter hype?By Tim Ellis Back in March, the Pebble Time smartwatch raised a record-shattering $20 million on Kickstarter. Surprise: Microsoft makes Xbox One compatible with Xbox 360 gamesBy Todd Bishop Microsoft just dropped a bomb on the game industry, announcing that the Xbox One will be able to play Xbox 360 games — making its newest console backward-compatible with titles originally created for its previous generation of console hardware. Blame tech workers for the soaring cost of Seattle real estate, Redfin saysBy Tricia Duryee When it was first reported that Silicon Valley residents were thinking about moving to Seattle in droves, people immediately wanted to know if these transplants were to blame for soaring real estate costs. Gigabit Internet access for $45 a month: How Seattle could make it happenBy Todd Bishop There is a way for Seattle’s residents to give themselves gigabit Internet service for $45/month. But as with most things in the world of telecom, there’s also a catch

Wednesday, 3 June 2015

EROTOPHOBIA

Erotophobia has many manifestations. An individual or culture can have one or multiple erotophobic attitudes. Some types of erotophobia include fear of nudity(the state of wearing no clothing), fear of sexual images, homophobia(encompasses a range of negative attitudes and feelings toward homosexuality or people who are identified or perceived as being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT).), fear of sex education, fear of sexual discourse.
As a clinical phobia, 'erotophobia' describes an irrational and potentially debilitating fear of some object, person or act that is related to sex. This fear either impairs a person's desire or ability to have sexual relationships, or completely prevents a person's ability to have sex. Erotophobia can also in some (but not all) individual cases, be a part of larger patterns of any of the following psychological problems—social phobia, avoidant personality disorder, body dysmorphic disorder, or general social anxiety problems. Erotophobia can also, for others, be very specific to love making with another person and not be related to any of these other social anxiety disorders. In the case of specific erotophobia, only the fear of something related to sex would be present without any other fears or syndromes.
In psychological studies, the term is often used to describe degree of (general) sexual aversion versus (general) interest in sex. In this sense erotophobia is descriptive of one's place in a range on a continuum (theory) of sexual feeling or aversion to feeling. Erotophobes score high on one end of the scale that is characterized by expressions of guilt and fear about sex. Psychologists sometimes attempt to describe sexuality on a personality scale. Erotophobes are less likely to talk about sex, have more negative reactions to sexually explicit material, and have sex less frequently and with fewer partners over time. In contrast, erotophiles score high on the opposite end of the scale, erotophilia, which is characterized by expressing less guilt about sex, talking about sex more openly, and holding more positive attitudes toward sexually explicit material.[2]
This dimension of personality is used to assess openness to sex and sexuality. It is an important dimension to measure because of the health and safety risks associated with poor sexual education.[3] Research on this personality dimension has shown a correlation between high erotophobia scores and a less consistent use of contraception and a lack of knowledge about human sexuality.[4]
It is also important because erotophobia has been shown to create relationship and marital difficulties in multiple studies, dating back to Kinsey(
In psychological studies, the term is often used to describe degree of (general) sexual aversion versus (general) interest in sex. In this sense erotophobia is descriptive of one's place in a range on a continuum (theory) of sexual feeling or aversion to feeling. Erotophobes score high on one end of the scale that is characterized by expressions of guilt and fear about sex. Psychologists sometimes attempt to describe sexuality on a personality scale. Erotophobes are less likely to talk about sex, have more negative reactions to sexually explicit material, and have sex less frequently and with fewer partners over time. In contrast, erotophiles score high on the opposite end of the scale, erotophilia, which is characterized by expressing less guilt about sex, talking about sex more openly, and holding more positive attitudes toward sexually explicit material.[2]
This dimension of personality is used to assess openness to sex and sexuality. It is an important dimension to measure because of the health and safety risks associated with poor sexual education.[3] Research on this personality dimension has shown a correlation between high erotophobia scores and a less consistent use of contraception and a lack of knowledge about human sexuality.[4]
It is also important because erotophobia has been shown to create relationship and marital difficulties in multiple studies, dating back to Kinsey.[5]
The word erotophobia has been used by anti-oppression activists to describe sex negative attitudes as a form of discrimination and oppression (akin to homophobia). In "Disability, Sex Radicalism, and Political Agency", Abby Wilkinson argues that "constraints on sexual agency should be recognized as a hallmark of oppression." In "Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack of Sexual Conservatism" (after Peggy McIntosh's influential "White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack"), TJ Bryan says, "Since power-based hierarchies in society form a matrix of domination, I understand that erotophobia occupies a supportive space adjacent to isms and phobias like classism, racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia."
In his book The Politics of Lust, author and sexual activist John Ince examines three distinct cause and effect forces that fuel erotophobia: "antisexualism," the irrational negative response to harmless sexual expression; "nasty sex," which includes rape and violent pornography; and "rigidity," the inability to enjoy "playful and spontaneous" sex. Ince also argues that social inequality and politics are inter linked with erotophobia and that overcoming erotophobia is one of the first steps to a truly democratic society.[6]

Wednesday, 27 May 2015

Sex Addiction Symptoms, Causes and Effects



If you or a loved one suffers from sex addiction, it’s important to understand the symptoms, causes and effects of the disorder.
What Are the Different Types of Sexual Addictions?
Several different types of sex addictions are common. Unfortunately, because so many different types exist, it can be hard to diagnose whether or not you or a loved is struggling with this issue; however, the following information might be able to help you on your journey.
Sex/Love Addiction
According to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, someone with a sex and love addiction can be romantically obsessed, or they may easily enter into codependent relationships. In other cases, they might exhibit signs of sexual or emotional anorexia, which means they avoid relationships because they don’t know how to control them.
Porn Addiction
A porn addiction is often hard for many people to diagnose. Although some people can use porn to spice up their relationships, others might turn to porn obsessively or compulsively. Those who fall in the latter category might suffer from a porn addiction. A porn addiction can cause you to reduce the amount of time you spend socializing, and it might make you sexually unresponsive, according to Fox News. If your partner becomes more demanding or uncharacteristically rough during intercourse, it might indicate they’re struggling with a porn addiction.
Exhibition and Voyeurism
If someone has a sex addiction that’s marked by voyeurism, they might objectify the other person so they can avoid having a personal relationship, according to the Legal Profession Assistance Conference (LPAC) of the Canadian Bar Association. If they struggle with exhibitionism, they might constantly seek attention from other people with no intention of taking the relationship any further.
Other Sexual Addictions
According to the LPAC, some of the other types of sex addiction that can occur include:
  • Using sex seductively
  • Trading sex for money or other things
  • Having intrusive sex
  • Fantasizing about sex all the time
  • Anonymous sex that isn’t connected to emotions
  • Sex based on pain
  • Exploiting others for sex
What Causes an Addiction to Sex?
Many different factors can contribute to a sex addiction. According to MedicineNet.com, these causes can include depression or anxiety, but the addiction can also be caused by sexual abuse. In most cases, someone who’s addicted to sex might experience brain stimulation when they engage in sex or sex-related activities. Over time, you can become addicted to these feelings.
What Are the Signs of Sexual Addiction?
Several signs can serve as indicators that someone has a sex addiction. Some of these symptoms are emotional, but many of them are physical as well.
Emotional Symptoms of Sex Addiction
If you or someone you love suffers from a sex addiction, you might not have healthy boundaries. You might become easily involved with people sexually or emotionally regardless of how well you know them, according to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
Because most sex addicts fear being abandoned, they might stay in relationships that aren’t healthy, or they may jump from relationship to relationship. When alone, they might feel empty or incomplete. They might also sexualize feelings like guilt, loneliness or fear.
Physical Symptoms of Sex Addiction
Although a sex addiction can create many physical side effects, few physical symptoms of this disorder exist. However, the most common physical symptom you might notice is feeling immobilized due to sexual or emotional obsessions.
Short-Term and Long-Term Effects of a Sex Addiction
The effects of a sex addiction can be relatively severe. According to Departmental Management of the USDA, about 38 percent of men and 45 percent of women with sex addictions have a venereal disease as a result of their behavior. Pregnancy is also a common side effect that can occur due to risky behavior. In one survey, nearly 70 percent of women with sex addictions reported they’d experienced at least one unwanted pregnancy as a result of their addiction.
Other side effects include the following:
  • Exhaustion
  • Physical injuries
  • Being arrested for committing inappropriate acts
  • Financial difficulties
  • Professional suffering including demotion
Is There a Sex Test or Self-Assessment I Can Do?
Because sexual addictions can manifest themselves in many different ways, it’s impossible to diagnose yourself just by examining what you do sexually. However, according to Sex Addicts Anonymous, you might be able to diagnose yourself by looking at other criteria. The following elements can indicate you have a sex addiction:
  • You feel powerless over how you act sexually.
  • Your sexual choices are making your life unmanageable.
  • You feel shame, embarrassment or even self-loathing over your sexual acts.
  • You promise yourself you’ll change, but fail to keep those promises.
  • You’re so preoccupied with sex it becomes like a ritual to you.
  • The negative consequences of your behavior are getting worse and worse.
Medication: Are There Sex Addiction Drug Options?
Although some people are able to get past their sex addiction through therapy alone, others need medication to help them. If you suffer from a sex addiction, your doctor might prescribe some serotoninergic (SSRI) medications to help you, according to MedicineNet.com. These medications are commonly used to treat depression and anxiety, and in some cases, they’re also used to treat bipolar disorder.
Sex Addict Drugs: Possible Options
If you decide an SSRI isn’t right for you, a few other types of medication are available for you to consider. Some sex addicts have success using mood stabilizers while others have success using naltrexone, which might be able to decrease the compulsive need to have sex or engage in sexual activities. Some people who want to abstain completely from sex as a way to deal with their addiction might turn to anti-androgenic medications. These medications can help to lower male hormones and thus curb sexual urges.
Medication Side Effects
The side effects you could experience vary depending upon which type of medication you opt to use. If you take an SSRI, you might experience the following side effects:
  • Lowered libido
  • Inability to reach an orgasm or taking longer than usual to reach an orgasm
  • Feelings of nausea
  • Loose stools
  • Feeling agitated
  • Inability to fall asleep
  • Headaches
In severe cases, patients may experience serotonergic syndrome, which is marked by high fevers and can cause life-threatening seizures.
If you decide to take a mood stabilizer, you might feel sleepy for no reason. Although that’s the most common side effect of this type of medication, some people experience lowered white blood cell counts or symptoms consistent with serious autoimmune disorders. Before taking any medications, you should speak with your doctor about possible side effects.
Drug Addiction, Dependence and Withdrawal in Sex Addicts
If you opt to treat your sex addiction with any of the medications discussed above, it’s important to take the medication as recommended by your doctor. Ideally, your doctor should monitor your progress to ensure you don’t become too dependent on any of these medications.
Medication Overdose
By taking your medication as directed, you should be able to avoid an overdose. If you feel tempted to overdose on your medication, you should call for help immediately.
Depression and Sex Addiction
Sex addicts might also suffer from depression. That’s one of the reasons medications that treat depression can also be useful in treating sex addiction. Ideally, your treatment plan should address both your depression and your addiction.
Dual Diagnosis: Substance Abuse and Sex Addiction
In many cases, sex addicts might also struggle with addictions to drugs or alcohol. According to the Departmental Management of the USDA, roughly 42 percent of sex addicts are also dependent on drugs or alcohol. If you think you have issues with both substance abuse and sex addiction, it’s crucial to find a sex addiction treatment plan that can help you deal with both of these issues.


Saturday, 23 May 2015

Are you worried about your penis size? Well, here is something to reduce the anxiety.



In 2015, newspaper headlines suddenly started claiming that the average man’s erection measured only 5.2 inches (13.2cms) in length.
While this was good news for a lot of men who think that they are 'too small', the new research is not quite as straightforward as it might seem.
In fact, it is a sort of ‘compilation’ of various studies from around the world – some of which appear to have been of less than ideal quality.
Nevertheless, over the last few years it has become apparent that the average man's penis is not as long as had been thought previously.
For decades, medical books and articles in the press have confidently stated that penile length is generally about 6.5 inches (16.5 centimetres).
As a result, a lot of males who are slightly shorter than this have felt pretty inadequate.
However, it now seems that the statistics on which this 'average' was based had a serious flaw. It is this: the figure was originally calculated by collecting measurements that men had carried out themselves.
Self-measurement of this sort is notoriously unreliable.
Why? Because so many males don't know where to measure from or use inaccurate rulers or ancient tape measures.
Also, there's a tendency for guys to round their 'scores' upwards, in an attempt to make themselves sound better-endowed. And the results tend to be skewed by people who falsely claim to be 10 or 11 inches long.
In recent times, a number of scientists have attempted to obtain more reliable figures, by the simple expedient of employing a trained person to carry out the measurement of each man.
And the results, which they have produced, seem to indicate that the average adult male is considerably shorter than had been thought.
In reality, the mean length of the erect penis appears to be only about 5.88 inches (14.9 centimetres), which is considerably less than the 'old' measurement.
Does all this matter? If you're a woman, you probably think that this concern about fractions of an inch is rather silly.
But if you're a man, you will know that such matters are – somewhat irrationally – of considerable importance to many males.
Why do men worry about length?
Even in this supposedly enlightened century, men fret about penis size and especially length.
Though the vast majority of guys have more than enough bulk and length to perform well as lovers, there's a widespread masculine obsession that 'more would be better'. .
Companies who advertise penis-enlarging creams and pills on the internet make vast sums of money by exploiting this obsession.
But other than surgery, there's nothing that's clinically proven to increase penis size. Worrying about penile size is not confined to heterosexual males. Many gay men have the same feelings about 'wanting to be bigger'. However, a lot of homosexual guys do not want a partner with a particularly large penis.
Size matters
To the average man, whether he’s straight or gay, his penis is, consciously or unconsciously, one of the most important things in the whole world. At an early age he discovers it and immediately becomes fascinated by it.
But then a note of uncertainty enters his mind: 'Isn't mine rather small?' Look at Dad's, look at big brother's, look at those in the men's changing room – and he asks himself if he will ever be as big as that.
And so he goes on through life, always a tiny bit sensitive about the size of his organ, always convinced that it would be nicer if it were just that little bit longer.
No matter how often it's written that penile size doesn't matter, and that women aren't attracted to a man because of the length of his organ, many males continues to think the same way.
The average female cannot understand this obsession with penile measurement. So if you're a woman, never belittle a man's penis in bed, even as a joke, or say anything to indicate that you think it's small. The guy may take you seriously, and if he does, he'll be deeply hurt.
We have known men who have gone on to have problems with impotence (erectile dysfunction) after someone made an unthinking remark about their dimensions. But almost all of these men had a perfectly normal male organ. Each one just thought he was very small compared with other guys.
It is also worth noting two points about women.
  1. Some women really dislike the idea of a large penis and may be frightened by one that is too long.
  2. Some women are much more impressed by the thickness of a penis, rather than its length. This is because some females like the sense of feeling stretched round the entrance to the vagina – so if a guy is quite broad at the base of his penis, this can feel very exciting and satisfying to such women.
So just be satisfied because even females are different in their liking.
A question of perspective
A wise man once said ”The trouble is that every man sees his own penis in a foreshortened view. The angle at which you look down inevitably makes your penis seem shorter than it is. But when you glance at another man's organ, there's no such foreshortening effect, so very often it'll look as though the other guy is slightly better endowed. A lifetime of comparison of this sort (and virtually every male does a quick mental check on each naked man he sees) can easily make you feel a bit inadequate. But it's important to realise the facts about penis length.”
Average penis length
Measuring the penis when it isn't erect is pointless, since the length and bulk are affected by various temporary factors, such as the ambient temperature.
Even the largest male organ can shrink to virtually nothing if the man goes for a swim in cold water.
However, at normal temperatures a non-erect penis usually measures between 8.5cm and 10.5cm (3 to 4 inches) from tip to base.
The average figure is about 9.5cm (3.75 inches).
Of course, it's true that some men have big penises and some have smaller ones, just as some men have small feet and some have big feet, but the measurement is not – repeat not – an index of virility.
Most people think that a tall man will usually have a large penis, but this is not entirely true.
The distinguished American researchers Masters and Johnson measured the penile lengths of more than 300 men.
  • The longest organ was 14 cm (5.5 inches) in the flaccid state. It belonged to a slim man who was 5' 7" tall (170 cm).
  • The shortest penis measured 6cm (2.25 inches). It belonged to a fairly heavily built man of 5' 11" (180cm).
It's also worth pointing out that there is no correlation between penile size and race.
Average size of erections
We've talked about the length of the penis in its ordinary non-erect state, but how long is it be when it's erect?
Interestingly, most penises are very much the same size when erect.
  • The man whose non-erect penis is smallish will usually achieve about a 100 per cent increase in length during sexual excitement.
  • The man whose non-erect penis is on the largish size will probably manage about a 75 per cent increase.
So you can see that even if a man has got a 'small' penis, he's got a built-in compensating factor that will bring him up to about the same size as the guy who appears to be 'better equipped' in the shower room.
As we've already said, the average penis is now known to be appreciably shorter than was traditionally thought. Most authorities now say that the mean length of the erect male organ is between 5.1 inches (12.9 centimetres) and 5.9 inches (15 centimetres).
One of the most accurate and scientific pieces of research on this subject was carried out in Mexico on behalf of LifeStyles condoms. Under the supervision of a doctor, four trained health professionals measured the erect penises of 300 men (who were mostly young Americans).
They found that the average length was 5.877 inches (14.93 centimetres) – far less than the figure which had been generally quoted in the past.
A review published in the British Journal of Urology in 2007 broadly confirmed this finding.
Sex and women
Many men forget that to a female, it doesn't really matter how long or how short your penis is, because the vagina will accommodate itself to virtually any length.
  • The vagina of a woman who hasn't had a child is only 7.5cm (3 inches) long when she's not sexually excited. The figures for women who have had babies are only slightly different.
  • Even when aroused, a woman's vagina usually extends only to a length of about 10cm (about 4 inches).
This means any man's penis will fill her vagina completely, unless you happen to be one of those rare guys with an erect penile length of less than four inches.
You're probably now wondering how the average man with an erection of six inches manages to insert his penis into the vagina at all.
But fortunately, the vagina has the most remarkable capacity for lengthening if something is introduced into it gradually.
So the exceptional man whose erect penis is eight inches (20.3 cms) long can still make love to any woman, providing he excites her properly and introduces his organ very slowly. If he does this, her vagina will lengthen by 150 or 200 per cent to accommodate him.
Surgery to increase penis size
A number of private clinics now offer operations that claim to make the penis look bigger.
The expense of this type of surgery is very great and there is a risk of complications like bleeding, infection or deformity.
One surgical procedure that became popular in the early years of this century is slicing through the ligament that supports the penis. (You can feel this ligament through your pubic hair, just above where your penis starts.)
This makes the penis dangle more, so it looks longer when not erect. But it will make no difference to the size of your erection – and furthermore it probably won't come up as high as it used to before the op.
Another type of surgery involves injecting your own fat into your penis to make it more bulky. This may not work, and it can lead to complications.
Its recommended that you do not agree to undergo any surgery unless you have seen an NHS consultant urologist who feels that you really need penis enlargement surgery.
Please note that a 2006 study from the Institute of Urology in London found that about 70 per cent of men who had undergone penis-lengthening surgery were dissatisfied with the results.
Penis stretchers (extenders)
Some urologists are beginning to use a special extending frame to try to stretch the penis.
These 'stretchers' are small rectangular frames that you wear on your penis for hours at a time, every day. They pull your organ out to its maximum length, and the idea is that it will gradually remain longer.
The devices are said to be undetectable under trousers. There have been several reports from Italy and Spain by surgeons who claim a modest degree of improvement in length from this kind of traction.
One surgeon reported that a group of men achieved an average increase in length of 1.8cm after using the device daily for four months.
This is less than three-quarters of an inch, but for some men this would be significant.
Stretchers cost between £150 and £200.
What treatments are there to reduce penis size?
Very occasionally, a man with a big penis feels that he wants it reduced in size. This can be done, but there is quite a risk that the operation might go wrong.
Again, its advise you not to have this operation unless an NHS consultant urologist has said it's necessary. This would be very rare.

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