Seve mistakes men make

Mistake 1: Sex Starts in the Bedroom

Men may turn on like a light, but for women, arousal doesn’t happen so fast, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD.

Pave the way during the day by hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Have some fun together, and show you appreciate her.

Feeling safe and secure in the relationship is key for a woman to really let loose during sex, Kerner says. A long hug can go further than you’d think. “Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates [a] sense of connection and trust.”

Mistake 2: Assume You Know What She Wants

“Just as many women are faking orgasm today as 20 or 30 years ago,” Kerner says. So, if she’s not enjoying herself, you might not know it.

Don't be afraid to ask questions like “How does this feel?” or “Do you want something different?”

In other words, ask for directions.

Mistake 3: Stick to Your Plan

Don't think that "if it worked the first three times, it will work the next three times," says sex therapist Sari Cooper, LCSW.

What turns her on may depend on her mood, and where she is in her monthly cycle. “Perhaps her nipples are more sensitive or her genitals are less tingly,” Cooper adds.

Pay attention to your partner, says psychologist Lonnie Barbach, PhD. “Try different things and she how she responds.”

When you find something that works, linger on it. Women often complain that men move on to the next thing just as they really start to enjoy an activity.

Mistake 4: Keep It Strictly Physical

Expand your idea of foreplay. Some men "focus on physical stimulation and often ignore mental stimulation,” Kerner says.

While men get stirred up by what they see, “women fantasize a lot during sex as part of [the] process of arousal.” Join in -- share a fantasy or a sexy memory.

Mistake 5: Expect Intercourse to Give Her an Orgasm

For 80% of women, intercourse alone won’t do the trick. Why not? Most sex positions don’t directly stimulate the clitoris.

There are other ways to pleasure her. “Women orgasm much more consistently from oral sex than from intercourse,” Kerner says. Also, try sex with the woman on top, or a vibrator made for couples to use during sex. “Men should feel comfortable, not threatened, with sex toys,” he says.

To help her hit the high note when you do have sex, take time to get her going before you make your entrance. “The closer women are when they start intercourse, the more likely they are to have an orgasm,” Barbach says.

Mistake 6: Skip the Seduction

Women like to be seduced. "Seduction is as important as, or sometimes more important than, technique,” Cooper says.

It helps to know what kind of turn-on your partner likes, whether it’s oral, visual, or mental, she says. “Does your partner like it when you talk dirty over the phone or text? Trace your finger slowly up her chest? Flirt with her at a bar?”

Also, if you like what you see, say so. "Let a woman know how desirable she is,” Barbach says.

Mistake 7: Focus on Ringing the Bell

Most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, but it's more complex than you may think.

Some men "don’t understand the anatomy of the clitoris,” Cooper says. It’s more than the small "button" you can see. Its nerve endings spread throughout the vulva and inside the vagina. All are potential pleasure points worth exploring.

“You can go back and forth,” Cooper says. Paying too much attention to the glans, at the top of the vulva, can take away from pleasure for some women. It's so sensitive, that too much stimulation can hurt.

AAAH Kissing, my favorite.

Kissing is a way to show affection that can be a lot of fun, not to mention having been scientifically proven to give couples a greater emotional connection than physical intimacy. There has even been proof that people remember their first kiss far better and more vividly than their first sexual experience. People don’t tend to over-think or dissect things that are such a joyful part of their lives, but here are a few things that you might not know about the best and most satisfying way to express affection.

The Science of Kissing

There is a scientific word for everything under the sun, and that includes kissing. The term for the study of kissing is “philematology”; the scientific term for French kissing is “cataglottism.”

Speaking of Words

The word “kiss” comes from the Old English “cyssan,” which in turn comes from the proto-Germanic “kussijinan” or “kuss.” These words are believed to have come from the sound that kissing makes.

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Work It Out

Locking lips is a physical affair, but exactly how physical? The average person burns about 2 calories for every minute of kissing; a passionate make out can burn up to 6 calories a minute.

Literary Evidence

The kiss is a popular subject for poetry and literature across all languages and cultures. The very first mention of the kiss in written word was in the Four Vedic Sanskrit texts, which dates back to 1500 B.C.

Potty Mouth

It’s widely known that the human mouth is an extremely dirty place. With one kiss, persons exchange anywhere from 10 million to 1 billion bacteria. As gross as that sounds, exchanging a kiss with a sick person is less likely to give you a cold than shaking their hand.

Time Of Your Life

Quantifying all of the daily activities really helps to put things into perspective. The average person does enough kissing to fill up two weeks of his or her life.

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A Violent Affair

Kissing is supposed to be nice, but it can have horrible unexpected consequences. In China, a man kissed his girlfriend so hard that he reduced the pressure in her mouth, which resulted in rupturing her eardrum.

Make Out Physiology

There are a great many facial muscles involved in kissing – a full-on French kiss involves up to 34 muscles. The most important of all though is the orbicularis oris, the muscle that allows the lips to pucker.

Guinness World Record

The current world record holders for the longest kiss belong to Ekkachai and Laksana Tiranarat of Thailand. On February 14th, 2013 they broke the current smooching milestone with a 58 hour, 35 minute, 58 second long kiss.

A Sensitive Subject

The human lips are extremely sensitive, 100 more sensitive than the tips of the fingers. Not even your intimate bits are that sensitive.

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When In Rome

The Romans like the Greeks were famous for intellectualizing everything, even the kiss. They divided them into three categories: a kiss on the cheek or “Osculum”, a kiss on the lips or “Basium”, and the deep kiss or “Savolium”.

French Twist

French kissing may be an incredibly fun and delightful experience, but the classic name wasn’t meant to reflect this. The term came about in 1923 as a dig towards the French culture and how so many thought it was so oversexed.

Origin of the Act

So many scholars are unsure as to whether kissing is learned or instinctual. Because there are plenty of cultures around the world that don’t practice kissing, many lean towards the latter.

Cinematic History

You may see a lot of kissing in the movies nowadays, but that wasn’t always the case. Under the censorship of the Hays Code, which was enforced from 1930 to 1968, on-screen kissing was strictly regulated and only allowed to last a few seconds. When kissing, if one person was lying down then the other person had to be standing or sitting upright; if spouses were kissing on the bed (film spouses slept in separate twin beds), one or both of the couple had to have a foot on the floor.

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Alternative Methods

Although a lot of people say giving “Eskimo” kisses is silly, most wouldn’t admit otherwise. An average of 95% of men and women admit to enjoying rubbing noses every once in a while.

Written Word

You may know that X’s and O’s are the written shorthand for kisses and hugs respectively. What you may not know is that the X is not just a randomly assigned letter – its meant to represent the shape the lips make when they pucker.

Literary Symbolism

Kissing is used as a very powerful metaphor seen throughout art and literature. The two most commonly seen are the kiss of life, also called “The Breath of God”, and the kiss of death, also referred to as “The Judas Kiss”.

You May Kiss The Bride

It would be easy to assume that the husband kisses his new bride at the end of a wedding ceremony as a symbol of love, but that would be assuming incorrectly. In fact, the act can be traced back to ancient Rome where kisses were used to complete and sign personal contracts.

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Getting High

When you kiss someone for the first time, the neurotransmitter dopamine is released, a feel-good hormone that makes you crave more. Unfortunately, dopamine can also make you lose your appetite and make it very difficult for you to fall asleep.

Righty-Tighty

When going in for a kiss, about two-thirds of people tilt their heads to the right. German researcher Onur Güntürkün discovered this not by surveying people but by spying on 224 unknowing American, German, and Turkish couples.

  

More to know about dreams

Dreams. Mysterious, bewildering, eye-opening and sometimes a nightmarish living hell: dreams are all that and much more. Here are 20 amazing facts about dreams that you might have never heard about.

Fact #1: You can’t read while dreaming, or tell the time

If you are unsure whether you are dreaming or not, try reading something. The vast majority of people are incapable of reading in their dreams. The same goes for clocks: each time you look at a clock it will tell a different time and the hands on the clock won’t appear to be moving as reported by lucid dreamers.

Fact #2: Lucid dreaming

There is a whole subculture of people practicing what is called lucid or conscious dreaming. Using various techniques, these people have supposedly learned to assume control of their dreams and do amazing things like flying, passing through walls, and traveling to different dimensions or even back in time.

Fact #3: Inventions inspired by dreams

Dreams are responsible for many of the greatest inventions of mankind. A few examples include:

• The idea for Google -Larry Page
• Alternating current generator -Tesla
• DNA’s double helix spiral form -James Watson
• The sewing machine -Elias Howe
• Periodic table -Dimitri Mendeleyev

…and many, many more.

Fact #4: Premonition dreams

There are some astounding cases where people actually dreamt about things which happened to them later, in the exact same ways they dreamed about. You could say they got a glimpse of the future, or it might have just been coincidence. The fact remains that this is some seriously interesting and bizarre phenomena. Some of the most famous premonition dreams include:

• Abraham Lincoln dreamt of His Assassination
• Many of the victims of 9/11 had dreams warning them about the catastrophe
• Mark Twain’s dream of his brother’s demise
• 19 verified precognitive dreams about the Titanic catastrophe

Fact #5: Sleep paralysis

Hell is real and it is called sleep paralysis. It’s the stuff of true nightmares. I’ve been a sleep paralysis sufferer as a kid and I can attest to how truly horrible it is. Two characteristics of sleep paralysis are the inability to move (hence paralysis) and a sense of an extremely evil presence in the room with you. It doesn’t feel like a dream, but 100% real. Studies show that during an attack, sleep paralysis sufferers show an overwhelming amygdala activity. The amygdala is responsible for the “fight or flight” instinct and the emotions of fear, terror and anxiety. Enough said!

Fact #6: REM sleep disorder

In the state of REM (rapid-eye-movement) stage of your sleep your body is normally paralyzed. In rare cases, however, people act out their dreams. These have resulted in broken arms, legs, broken furniture, and in at least one reported case, a house burnt down.

Fact #7: Sexual dreams

The very scientifically-named “nocturnal penile tumescence” is a very well documented phenomena. In laymen’s term it simply means that you get a stiffy while you sleep. Actually, studies indicate that men get up to 20 erections per dream.

Fact #8: Unbelievable Sleepwalkers

Sleepwalking is a very rare and potentially dangerous sleep disorder. It is an extreme form of REM sleep disorder, and these people don’t just act out their dreams, but go on real adventures at night.
Lee Hadwin is a nurse by profession, but in his dreams he is an artist. Literally. He “sleepdraws” gorgeous portraits, of which he has no recollection afterwards. Strange sleepwalking “adventures” include:

• A woman having sex with strangers while sleepwalking
• A man who drove 22 miles and killed his cousin while sleepwalking (how is this even possible?)
• A sleepwalker who walked out of the window from the third floor, and barely survived

Fact #9: Dream drug

There are actually people who like dreaming and dreams so much that they never want to wake up. They want to continue on dreaming even during the day, so they take an illegal and extremely potent hallucinogenic drug called Dimethyltryptamine. It is actually only an isolated and synthetic form of the chemical our brains produce naturally during dreaming.

Fact #10 Dream-catcher

The dream-catcher is one of the most well-known Native American symbols. It is a loose web or webs woven around a hoop and decorated with sacred objects meant to protect against nightmares.

Fact #11: Increased brain activity

You would associate sleeping with peace and quiet, but actually our brains are more active during sleep than during the day.

Fact #12: Creativity and dreams

As we mentioned before, dreams are responsible for inventions, great artworks and are generally just incredibly interesting. They are also “recharging” our creativity. In rare cases of REM disorder, people actually don’t dream at all. These people suffer from significantly decreased creativity and perform badly at tasks requiring creative problem solving.

Fact #13: Pets dream too

Our animal companions dream as well. Watch a dog or a cat sleep and you can see that they are moving their paws and making noises like they were chasing something. Go get ’em Buddy!

Fact #14: You always dream—you just don’t remember it

Many people claim that they don’t dream at all, but that’s not true: we all dream, but up to 60% of people don’t remember their dreams at all.

Fact #15: Blind people dream too

Blind people who were not born blind see images in their dreams but people who were born blind don’t see anything at all. They still dream, and their dreams are just as intense and interesting, but they involve the other senses beside sight.

Fact #16: In our dreams we only see faces that we already know

It is proven that in dreams we can only see faces that we have seen in real life before. So beware: that scary-looking old lady next to you on the bus might as well be in your next nightmare.

Fact #17: Dreams tend to be negative

Surprisingly, dreams are more often negative than positive. The three most widely reported emotions felt during dreaming are anger, sadness and fear.

Fact #18: Multiple dreams per night

You can have up to seven different dreams per night depending on how many REM cycles you have. We only dream during the REM period of sleep, and the average person dreams one to two hours every night.

Fact #19: Gender differences

Interestingly, 70% of all the characters in a man’s dream are other men, but women’s dream contain an equal amount of women and men. Also men’s dreams contain a lot more aggression. Both women and men dream about sexual themes equally often.

Fact #20: Not everyone dreams in color

As much as 12% of people only dream in black and white.

Sorry Kiprono, Malia Is not going to show up afterall.

Even after the fair proposals by 2 Kenyan men, Malia Obama might not be accompanying her father to Kenya after all.

The 17 year old is said to be busy as she is interning on the set of a television hit series, Girls that is currently being filmed at New York for this summer. It is not fair to the Kenyan lawyer, Felix Kiprono, who had hoped to see her and present his 50 cows dowry offer to Obama himself. She could have at least considered the undying love from Felix.

It is not confirmed whether the Michelle and Sasha will accompany Obama during his trip.Obama is going to be accompanied by the American government officials and business moguls to the Global Entrepreneurship Summit which will be happening at the UN grounds in Gigiri.

Malia Obama has expressed her interest in media and production as last year she worked as a production assistant on the set of Halle Berry’s television series, Extant.

She is entering her senior year in high school and has been making the rounds to prospective colleges. She has been spotted visiting a number of New York schools.New York University, Barnard College and her father’s alma mater, Columbia University, have all been hinted as colleges she is likely to join once she graduates.

14 Embarrassing Sex Questions – Answered!

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32 TOTALLY Arousing Facts About . . .

1. During 30 minutes of active sex, the average person burns approximately 200 calories.^e
2. On average, adult men think about sex every seven seconds.^e
3. Having sex at least once per week can lower a man’s risk of heart disease by 30%, stroke by 50%, and diabetes by 40%. It has also been shown that men with an active sex life are more likely to live past 80 years.^f
4. The average size of an erect penis measures between 5 and 6 inches, while the average size of a flaccid penis is about 3.5 inches.^e
5. The sperm count of the average American male in 2008 was down nearly 30% from the sperm count of an average American male 30 years ago.^h

Viagra was released in 1998 with over $411 million in profits within its first three months

6. Viagra, the well-known blue pill designed to help with erectile dysfunction, made $411 million in profits within the first three months of its release in 1998 before going on to make $1.8 billion in 2003.^g
7. Use of the condom was first noted in published literature in the early 1500s. The device was originally made of linen, and historians believe the legendary lover Casanova used linen condoms.^a
8. Historical records show that even in 1850 B.C., women attempted to practice birth control. The most common method was a mixture of crocodile dung and honey placed in the vagina in the hopes of preventing pregnancy.^a
9. Although nearly any body part or item of clothing may be an object of sexual fetishism, the shoe and the foot are the two most common fetishes in Western society.^e
10. Just a decade ago, only 25% of women reported experiencing orgasm as a result of intercourse. In recent years, this number has risen to about 45%. In contrast, over 80% of women report experiencing orgasm though oral sex.^e
11. The vibrator, a common sex toy for women, was originally designed in the nineteenth century as a medication to combat the anxiety-related symptoms of “hysteria” (now known as menstruation).^a
12. Homosexuality was listed as a mental illness with the American Psychiatric Association (APA) until 1973. It has since been removed and is now considered an orientation by the APA instead of an illness.^h
13. Throughout the United States, approximately 4% of the population self-identifies as gay, lesbian, or bisexual.^h
14. Approximately 1% of people worldwide identify as asexual (having no strong sexual attraction to either sex).^b

One in five Americans has been sexually involved with a coworker

15. Statistics suggest that approximately one in every five Americans has indulged in sex with a colleague at work.^e
16. Approximately 70% of people in the U.S. admit to fantasizing about group sex at some point in their life, and more than 50% of those people actually follow through.^e
17. Nearly one in four Americans (65 millions people) are currently living with an incurable sexually transmitted disease (STD).ⁱ
18. During 2007, more than 2.5 million people worldwide became infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. With these new cases, there are now 33 million people living with AIDS throughout the world.ⁱ
19. Since AIDS was first diagnosed in 1981, more than 25 million people have died as a result of the virus. Two million people died from AIDS in the year 2007 alone.ⁱ
20. The average male produces several million new sperm daily. Conversely, a female is born with a finite amount of eggs and will produce no more than that throughout her lifetime.^f
21. Statistics show that approximately 90% of men and 65% of women masturbate from time to time.^e
22. Worldwide, 27.5% of women report that they felt pressured into having sex for the first time compared to 15% of men reporting the same feelings.^c
23. According to a 2007 worldwide sex survey, the average age when people first have sex is 19.25. The survey also found that people in Asian countries tended to lose their virginity at a much later age (an average of 22) than those in Western cultures (an average of 18).^c

The car is second only to the bedroom as a favorite place to have sex

24. Outside of the bedroom, the most common place for adults in the U.S. to have sex is the car.^c
25. The average couple spends about 20 minutes engaged in sexual foreplay prior to intercourse.^e
26. Worldwide, sexually active adults report having sex an average of 103 times per year. This number is down from an average of 127 times per year in 2003.^d
27. One report states that 48% of women have faked an orgasm at least once in their life. Interestingly, an identical 48% of men also report faking an orgasm at least once.^d
28. Throughout the world, approximately 25% of people report having had only one sexual partner. Conversely, 21% of people report having more than 10 sexual partners in their lifetime.^d
29. One survey reports that 53% of sexually active Americans claim to have sex at least once weekly. However, only 48% of Americans report being satisfied with their sex life.^c
30. Many of the ingredients in chocolate are proven to cause arousal similar in effect to sexual foreplay. In fact, some experts believe chocolate may be even more effective than foreplay for sexual arousal.^a
31. Both men and women can be turned on by the aromas of wine. The scents of many wines are believed to replicate human pheromones, the chemical substances that cause behavioral responses in humans.^a
32. Endorphins released during sexual activity create a euphoria similar to that produced by opioid drug use. These same endorphins also act as extremely effective pain killers.^f

Ai Se Eu Te Pego

Many like the song, but have you ever known the meaning?

Portuguese

Ai Se Eu Te Pego

 

Nossa, nossa
Assim você me mata
Ai, se eu te pego,
Ai, ai, se eu te pego
Delícia, delícia
Assim você me mata
Ai, se eu te pego
Ai, ai, se eu te pego
Sábado na balada
A galera começou a dançar
E passou a menina mais linda
Tomei coragem e comecei a falar
Nossa, nossa
Assim você me mata
Ai, se eu te pego
Ai, ai se eu te pego
Delícia, delicia
Assim você me mata
Ai, se eu te pego
Ai, ai, se eu te pego

English

Ah when I get my hands on you...

Wow, wow
You're gonna kill me that way
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Delicious, delicious
You're gonna kill me that way
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Saturday party night
Everyone began to dance
The hottest girl of the place passed me by
So I got the guts up and began to say to her
Wow, wow
You're gonna kill me that way
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Delicious, delicious
You're gonna kill me that way
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)
Ah when I get my hands on you, (poor you)

Amanda's Interview After Her 88-Pound Weight Loss With The Tolerance Suppressing Method.

A woman has documented her incredible 88lb weight loss with a series of photos showing just how dramatically her body - and self-confidence - has changed.

36-year-old Amanda, who did not reveal her last name, used advanced tolerance prevention system to shrink her 222lb frame.
By sticking to this advanced formula and doing 'virtually zero intentional exercise', Amanda managed to shed the weight while gaining self-confidence.

'In the early stages of taking pictures, I only took one of myself
- I hated the way I looked'

Indeed, the Reddit user responded to some viewers who commented on the fact that her smile gets broader as her waist gets smaller in the photo series.

'In the early stages of taking progress pictures, I literally only took one photo of myself. I hated the way I looked,' she wrote. 'I had so little self-confidence that the thought honestly never crossed my mind.'

Slimfy's three‐stage weight loss system has everyone changing the way they think of weight loss. As many weight loss systems claim to offer fat burning ingredients and amazing results, the true secret rests within the dosage and mixture of ingredients your body absorbs over a period of time. Slimfy's progressive three‐stage system was created to offer all of the best fat burning ingredients while managing to sustain the peak of their potency.
Slimfy's ground breaking Tolerance Prevention System was created by an experienced group of nutritionists, endocrinologists, and experts in the health and beauty industry. Their intensive research discovered how the human body must increase and differentiate the ingredients in weight loss formulas for the product to continue working. Slimfy's progressive three‐stage system uses a different compound of NON-GMO, ORGANIC ingredients in each stage to increase the results. Manufacturer claims: “Slimfy has already helped millions of people around the world to experience a happier and more fulfilling life through successful weight‐loss.”
Although we were pretty skeptical, we wanted to find out for ourselves if this product could actually do everything that it claimed. …Most of the success stories talk about combining allThree Stages of Slimfy to achieve maximum weight loss result. The idea behind combining the three formulas was discovered when studies had shown that people who regularly take supplements or medication develop a phenomenon called tolerance (if substance is used over 30 days)

Eva Mendes Shares Her Beauty And Fitness Tricks

It’s always intriguing to see a female celebrity getting older but more beautiful with each appearance. Hollywood celebs are people who simply know how to take care of themselves, but they seldom share their secrets with the world.
However, one of the prettiest women in Hollywood recently decided to come out with her beauty tricks. During a Facebook Q&A, actress Eva Mendes responded to her fans with advices on how to look beautiful and feel that way.
When asked how to stay healthy while having a busy schedule, Mendes responded: “Drinking warm water and lemon every morning before my coffee and staying hydrated all day long really helps me stay healthy and helps my skin look its best.”
The next topic was makeup, for which the actress has a few methods: “Believe it or not, after I’ve applied my makeup, if I really want it to stay all day, I run the hot shower for a minute and I let the steam settle my makeup. I know it sounds weird but it works for me!”
Finally, Eva Mendes shared her story about working out: “I do cardio and light weights at least three times a week. I think eating anything you want – as long as it’s in moderation is good.”
Some of her tricks might be unorthodox, but they clearly work for Eva Mendes. Nonetheless, it strange to think this Hollywood beauty owes her great figure and youthful looks to warm water and hot showers.

18 Things Every Woman Should Have Been Told About Sex, But Probably Wasn't

• Talking about sex during your formative years can be incredibly awkward -- even squirm-inducing. But whether you experience formal sex ed, awkward "birds and the bees" talks, candid conversations with friends or all or none of the above, it's all theoretical until you're actually doing it -- which can make for some surprises along the way.


On a Nov. 7 Reddit thread, commenters answered the question "what is something about sex that you wish someone had told you?" The thoughtful responses touched on everything from the way pornography has influenced our sex lives ( "changing positions every 30 seconds not actually required despite what porn clips teaches many") and calling out the unrealistic portrayal of sex in Hollywood ("Sex on a beach is not half as good as the movies make it out to be"), to safe-sex information ("Antibiotics impact the effectiveness of birth control pills") and general wisdom ("Sooner or later, one of you will do something utterly embarrassing. It will be absolutely mortifying. A good partner will not care.")
After asking about this from several acquaintances and people around and a little research, i have come up with the conclusion below. (all were ladies)
Here are 18 things they shared with me:
1. There is no dignified way of "cleaning up" -- and you WILL need to clean up afterwards.
2. A male partner won't always have a higher sex drive than you.
3. You can have as much sex as you want, with as many people as you like.
4. Sex is truly awesome when you really love the person you're having it with.
5. Women are allowed to enjoy sex as much as men.
6. Sex doesn't look like it does in the movies -- or in porn.
7. You are not more valuable as a person if someone wants to have sex with you, and you are not less valuable as a person if you choose not to.
8. Learn what turns you on and don't be afraid to ask for it, because your partner isn't a mind-reader.
9. It's fine to say "no" -- it doesn't make you less sexual.
10. The best sex is about mutual giving.
11. Plenty of women can't orgasm from intercourse alone. An estimated 50 to 75 percent of women require clitoral stimulation.
12. It's easy to get caught up in the moment, so know how you plan to protect yourself from pregnancy and STDs beforehand.
13. Great sex does not equal great love.
14. Anxieties and fears about sex are totally normal -- and it's (more than) fine to talk about them.
15. Just like with anything else, to get good you need practice. Sex is not something you're born knowing how to do well.
16. It can be really, really awkward.
17. Your "sexual peak" won't necessarily be in your twenties.
18. Experiment! (And have fun doing so.)

Lets talk abit about Masturbation

1. Masturbation is not evil, dirty or harmful - it will not make you go blind, drive you insane, turn you in to a pervert, stunt your growth, give you an STD, make you sterile or get you pregnant.
2. Both guys and girls masturbate, it is a normal and healthy part of sexual development.
3. Masturbation is a very personal thing and should not be done in public places or around people who are not willing partners (think safer sex activity).
4. You are normal if you masturbate, normal if you wonder about it but don't do it, and normal if you never give it a second thought and don't do it - it is one of the few things in life that is "normal if you do and normal if you don't".
5. Masturbation may make sexual intercourse more enjoyable because you will already know what it takes to "please you".
6. Masturbation alleviates stress and releases endorphins (the pleasure hormones) in to your system making you more relaxed.
7. Masturbation as exploration of the body is common in children between the ages of 3 and 6, in teens masturbation becomes more sophisticated and sexually motivated.
8. Surveys have shown that 80% of males and 59% of females have masturbated by age 18.
9. Many experts believe that masturbation is more prevalent in the teen years due to a strong fluctuation of hormones; masturbation alleviates the strain of this build up and is a necessary part of development.
10. The only real problems that come with masturbation are psychological and are the result of unhealthy or weary attitudes toward doing it (if you do it but are ashamed) or abnormal practices (for example, public masturbation).

So happy belated Masturbation Month, May is the month many lay down to celebrate the fine art of wanking, jerking off, rubbing one out, twirling the pearl, onanism, self-loving, going solo, spanking the monkey, fapping, self-servicing — pick your favorite. In honor of this highly-esteemed holiday, here are a few facts about beating off that you might have never heard of. Orgasms are an “inalienable constitutional right,” according to sexologist Carol Queen, so get your lube out.

1. National Masturbation Month was first celebrated in 1995 in honor of Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders, who was fired by President Bill Clinton for her statements supporting masturbation for sexual health.Can you masturbate too much? According to legend, wanking too frequently can cause blindness, insanity,  hairy palms, and stunted growth. The American Psychiatric Association says that unless masturbation is getting in the way of your everyday life (work, friendships, falafel), there is no such thing as too much self love. 
2. Can you masturbate too much? According to legend, wanking too frequently can cause blindness, insanity,  hairy palms, and stunted growth. The American Psychiatric Association says that unless masturbation is getting in the way of your everyday life (work, friendships, falafel), there is no such thing as too much self love.
3. Hold the Midol. Masturbating is one of the most effective natural ways to relieve menstrual cramps.
4.  One of the first depictions of a female masturbating was found in a clay figurine in a temple in Malta. The figurine was from the 4th millennium BC. Masturbating is literally an ancient practice.
5. Even more health benefits: Studies show that masturbation lowers the risk of type-2 diabetes, lowers the risk of prostate cancer, reduces depressions, and prevents cervical infections in women. It also puts you right to sleep.
6.  In 17th century Connecticut, masturbators were eligible for the death penalty. Yet another reason why I don’t live in Connecticut.
7.  Human aren’t the only ones to itch the ditch. Deer, monkeys, walruses, and squirrels have been documented pleasuring themselves. Scientists have even observed female apes using sticks for added pleasure.
8.  In the nineteenth century, vibrators were only used by physicians, and served the sole medical purpose of curing hysteria — a diagnosis thrust upon “difficult women.” Thanks, Victorians.
9.  The Kama Sutra, the ancient Indian Hindu sex manual from 400 BC included instructions for masturbating: “Churn your instrument with a lion’s pounce: sit with legs stretched out at right angles to one another, propping yourself up with two hands planted on the ground between in them, and it between your arms.”
10.  It’s hard to nail down when the first porn ever landed on the internet, but in 1994, Gary Kremen blessed all horny web surfers when he registered the domain Sex.com, considered to be the first dirty site ever.
11.  There are absolutely no health risks to masturbation (besides a little chafing). Getting on the roads everyday is more dangerous.

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EROTOPHOBIA

Erotophobia has many manifestations. An individual or culture can have one or multiple erotophobic attitudes. Some types of erotophobia include fear of nudity(the state of wearing no clothing), fear of sexual images, homophobia(encompasses a range of negative attitudes and feelings toward homosexuality or people who are identified or perceived as being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT).), fear of sex education, fear of sexual discourse.
As a clinical phobia, 'erotophobia' describes an irrational and potentially debilitating fear of some object, person or act that is related to sex. This fear either impairs a person's desire or ability to have sexual relationships, or completely prevents a person's ability to have sex. Erotophobia can also in some (but not all) individual cases, be a part of larger patterns of any of the following psychological problems—social phobia, avoidant personality disorder, body dysmorphic disorder, or general social anxiety problems. Erotophobia can also, for others, be very specific to love making with another person and not be related to any of these other social anxiety disorders. In the case of specific erotophobia, only the fear of something related to sex would be present without any other fears or syndromes.
In psychological studies, the term is often used to describe degree of (general) sexual aversion versus (general) interest in sex. In this sense erotophobia is descriptive of one's place in a range on a continuum (theory) of sexual feeling or aversion to feeling. Erotophobes score high on one end of the scale that is characterized by expressions of guilt and fear about sex. Psychologists sometimes attempt to describe sexuality on a personality scale. Erotophobes are less likely to talk about sex, have more negative reactions to sexually explicit material, and have sex less frequently and with fewer partners over time. In contrast, erotophiles score high on the opposite end of the scale, erotophilia, which is characterized by expressing less guilt about sex, talking about sex more openly, and holding more positive attitudes toward sexually explicit material.^[2]
This dimension of personality is used to assess openness to sex and sexuality. It is an important dimension to measure because of the health and safety risks associated with poor sexual education.^[3] Research on this personality dimension has shown a correlation between high erotophobia scores and a less consistent use of contraception and a lack of knowledge about human sexuality.^[4]
It is also important because erotophobia has been shown to create relationship and marital difficulties in multiple studies, dating back to Kinsey⁽
In psychological studies, the term is often used to describe degree of (general) sexual aversion versus (general) interest in sex. In this sense erotophobia is descriptive of one's place in a range on a continuum (theory) of sexual feeling or aversion to feeling. Erotophobes score high on one end of the scale that is characterized by expressions of guilt and fear about sex. Psychologists sometimes attempt to describe sexuality on a personality scale. Erotophobes are less likely to talk about sex, have more negative reactions to sexually explicit material, and have sex less frequently and with fewer partners over time. In contrast, erotophiles score high on the opposite end of the scale, erotophilia, which is characterized by expressing less guilt about sex, talking about sex more openly, and holding more positive attitudes toward sexually explicit material.^[2]
This dimension of personality is used to assess openness to sex and sexuality. It is an important dimension to measure because of the health and safety risks associated with poor sexual education.^[3] Research on this personality dimension has shown a correlation between high erotophobia scores and a less consistent use of contraception and a lack of knowledge about human sexuality.^[4]
It is also important because erotophobia has been shown to create relationship and marital difficulties in multiple studies, dating back to Kinsey.^[5]
The word erotophobia has been used by anti-oppression activists to describe sex negative attitudes as a form of discrimination and oppression (akin to homophobia). In "Disability, Sex Radicalism, and Political Agency", Abby Wilkinson argues that "constraints on sexual agency should be recognized as a hallmark of oppression." In "Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack of Sexual Conservatism" (after Peggy McIntosh's influential "White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack"), TJ Bryan says, "Since power-based hierarchies in society form a matrix of domination, I understand that erotophobia occupies a supportive space adjacent to isms and phobias like classism, racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia."
In his book The Politics of Lust, author and sexual activist John Ince examines three distinct cause and effect forces that fuel erotophobia: "antisexualism," the irrational negative response to harmless sexual expression; "nasty sex," which includes rape and violent pornography; and "rigidity," the inability to enjoy "playful and spontaneous" sex. Ince also argues that social inequality and politics are inter linked with erotophobia and that overcoming erotophobia is one of the first steps to a truly democratic society.^[6]

Sex Addiction Symptoms, Causes and Effects

If you or a loved one suffers from sex addiction, it’s important to understand the symptoms, causes and effects of the disorder.

What Are the Different Types of Sexual Addictions?

Several different types of sex addictions are common. Unfortunately, because so many different types exist, it can be hard to diagnose whether or not you or a loved is struggling with this issue; however, the following information might be able to help you on your journey.

Sex/Love Addiction

According to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, someone with a sex and love addiction can be romantically obsessed, or they may easily enter into codependent relationships. In other cases, they might exhibit signs of sexual or emotional anorexia, which means they avoid relationships because they don’t know how to control them.

Porn Addiction

A porn addiction is often hard for many people to diagnose. Although some people can use porn to spice up their relationships, others might turn to porn obsessively or compulsively. Those who fall in the latter category might suffer from a porn addiction. A porn addiction can cause you to reduce the amount of time you spend socializing, and it might make you sexually unresponsive, according to Fox News. If your partner becomes more demanding or uncharacteristically rough during intercourse, it might indicate they’re struggling with a porn addiction.

Exhibition and Voyeurism

If someone has a sex addiction that’s marked by voyeurism, they might objectify the other person so they can avoid having a personal relationship, according to the Legal Profession Assistance Conference (LPAC) of the Canadian Bar Association. If they struggle with exhibitionism, they might constantly seek attention from other people with no intention of taking the relationship any further.

Other Sexual Addictions

According to the LPAC, some of the other types of sex addiction that can occur include:

• Using sex seductively
• Trading sex for money or other things
• Having intrusive sex
• Fantasizing about sex all the time
• Anonymous sex that isn’t connected to emotions
• Sex based on pain
• Exploiting others for sex

What Causes an Addiction to Sex?

Many different factors can contribute to a sex addiction. According to MedicineNet.com, these causes can include depression or anxiety, but the addiction can also be caused by sexual abuse. In most cases, someone who’s addicted to sex might experience brain stimulation when they engage in sex or sex-related activities. Over time, you can become addicted to these feelings.

What Are the Signs of Sexual Addiction?

Several signs can serve as indicators that someone has a sex addiction. Some of these symptoms are emotional, but many of them are physical as well.

Emotional Symptoms of Sex Addiction

If you or someone you love suffers from a sex addiction, you might not have healthy boundaries. You might become easily involved with people sexually or emotionally regardless of how well you know them, according to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.

Because most sex addicts fear being abandoned, they might stay in relationships that aren’t healthy, or they may jump from relationship to relationship. When alone, they might feel empty or incomplete. They might also sexualize feelings like guilt, loneliness or fear.

Physical Symptoms of Sex Addiction

Although a sex addiction can create many physical side effects, few physical symptoms of this disorder exist. However, the most common physical symptom you might notice is feeling immobilized due to sexual or emotional obsessions.

Short-Term and Long-Term Effects of a Sex Addiction

The effects of a sex addiction can be relatively severe. According to Departmental Management of the USDA, about 38 percent of men and 45 percent of women with sex addictions have a venereal disease as a result of their behavior. Pregnancy is also a common side effect that can occur due to risky behavior. In one survey, nearly 70 percent of women with sex addictions reported they’d experienced at least one unwanted pregnancy as a result of their addiction.

Other side effects include the following:

• Exhaustion
• Physical injuries
• Being arrested for committing inappropriate acts
• Financial difficulties
• Professional suffering including demotion

Is There a Sex Test or Self-Assessment I Can Do?

Because sexual addictions can manifest themselves in many different ways, it’s impossible to diagnose yourself just by examining what you do sexually. However, according to Sex Addicts Anonymous, you might be able to diagnose yourself by looking at other criteria. The following elements can indicate you have a sex addiction:

• You feel powerless over how you act sexually.
• Your sexual choices are making your life unmanageable.
• You feel shame, embarrassment or even self-loathing over your sexual acts.
• You promise yourself you’ll change, but fail to keep those promises.
• You’re so preoccupied with sex it becomes like a ritual to you.
• The negative consequences of your behavior are getting worse and worse.

Medication: Are There Sex Addiction Drug Options?

Although some people are able to get past their sex addiction through therapy alone, others need medication to help them. If you suffer from a sex addiction, your doctor might prescribe some serotoninergic (SSRI) medications to help you, according to MedicineNet.com. These medications are commonly used to treat depression and anxiety, and in some cases, they’re also used to treat bipolar disorder.

Sex Addict Drugs: Possible Options

If you decide an SSRI isn’t right for you, a few other types of medication are available for you to consider. Some sex addicts have success using mood stabilizers while others have success using naltrexone, which might be able to decrease the compulsive need to have sex or engage in sexual activities. Some people who want to abstain completely from sex as a way to deal with their addiction might turn to anti-androgenic medications. These medications can help to lower male hormones and thus curb sexual urges.

Medication Side Effects

The side effects you could experience vary depending upon which type of medication you opt to use. If you take an SSRI, you might experience the following side effects:

• Lowered libido
• Inability to reach an orgasm or taking longer than usual to reach an orgasm
• Feelings of nausea
• Loose stools
• Feeling agitated
• Inability to fall asleep
• Headaches

In severe cases, patients may experience serotonergic syndrome, which is marked by high fevers and can cause life-threatening seizures.

If you decide to take a mood stabilizer, you might feel sleepy for no reason. Although that’s the most common side effect of this type of medication, some people experience lowered white blood cell counts or symptoms consistent with serious autoimmune disorders. Before taking any medications, you should speak with your doctor about possible side effects.

Drug Addiction, Dependence and Withdrawal in Sex Addicts

If you opt to treat your sex addiction with any of the medications discussed above, it’s important to take the medication as recommended by your doctor. Ideally, your doctor should monitor your progress to ensure you don’t become too dependent on any of these medications.

Medication Overdose

By taking your medication as directed, you should be able to avoid an overdose. If you feel tempted to overdose on your medication, you should call for help immediately.

Depression and Sex Addiction

Sex addicts might also suffer from depression. That’s one of the reasons medications that treat depression can also be useful in treating sex addiction. Ideally, your treatment plan should address both your depression and your addiction.

Dual Diagnosis: Substance Abuse and Sex Addiction

In many cases, sex addicts might also struggle with addictions to drugs or alcohol. According to the Departmental Management of the USDA, roughly 42 percent of sex addicts are also dependent on drugs or alcohol. If you think you have issues with both substance abuse and sex addiction, it’s crucial to find a sex addiction treatment plan that can help you deal with both of these issues.